Do This. Do That. Don’t Do This. Don’t Do That.
Growing up, one of my favorite TV shows was America’s Funniest Home Videos (AFV). After school, my siblings and I used to sit in our living room and for an entire hour we watched people tripping, falling, getting hit with different objects or getting frightened by their loved ones.
We laughed along with the audience in the show as the poor people in the videos nearly suffered a heart attack as one of their family members came behind them unexpectedly, came out of somewhere you wouldn’t expect someone to get out of or wear strange customs, all to scare them.
While I enjoyed that show when I was younger and even attempted to do one of the tricks I saw on that show to scare one of my brothers, scaring people, especially, when they least expect it, is not permissible in Islam. Frightening people and seeing their reactions is something we all have done one time or another for the sake of having “fun.”
It’s just one of those things people love to do; however, scaring people along with other things we may see as harmless fun are all things that are not permissible in Islam.
All of the following things are either not permissible or highly discouraged in Islam.
“The companions of the prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said that they were travelling with the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and a man among them fell asleep. Some of them got a rope and tied him up, and he got scared. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: ‘It is not permissible for a Muslim to frighten another Muslim.’” (Narrated by Abu Dawood).
Besides obeying our prophet, here are other reasons to not scare people…
- The person’s adrenalin goes up when they experience fear, that means they can really hurt you, especially if the person you’re scaring has a weapon in hand.
- The person you’re frightening can suffer serious problems when you unexpectedly scare them—problems such as heart rate going up really fast, and even stroke in some people.
Mocking/making fun of people
This is a more obvious one as to why it is not permitted in Islam, yet people still do it, especially when they’re young (teenagers and young adults). Making fun of someone includes all of the following,
- Winking or making strange faces behind the other person’s back
- Making an indirect rude comment
- Calling another person with a nickname that is not good or that they do not approve of.
O you who believe! Let not a group scoff at another group, it may be that the latter are better than the former. Nor let (some) women scoff at other women, it may be that the latter are better than the former. Nor defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames. How bad is it to insult one’s brother after having faith.
Chapter 49, verse 11.
The prophet (may Allah’s peace and blessings be upon him) also warned us not to make fun of people. He said:
Do not express malicious joy towards your brother’s misfortune, for Allaah may have mercy on him and you may be stricken by the thing you made fun of.
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi.
Laughing too much
In recent times, I have heard that laughing is really good and healthy for you—it’s supposedly a good way to relieve stress and feel happy. Our prophet however, advised us to be careful about laughing too much. It was reported from Abu Hureyrah that Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:
Do not laugh too much, for laughing deadens the heart.
Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, and Ibn Maajah.
Some people will think, well there is no fun in Islam if I can’t do any of the above mentioned things.
Islam is a religion which encourages balance and moderation and the Muslim is encouraged to always have balance in his daily life. This doesn’t mean we should only be serious; it just means that laughing, joking or doing anything else for that matter (entertainment) excessively should be avoided. In Islam, we are encouraged to be a happy and pleasant with others. Smiling is even considered charity.
So go ahead and laugh, smile and be happy; just make sure you do it with balance and moderation.