What could be scarier?
Could you think of anything more frightening than the idea that Allah doesn’t love you? How much differently would you act if you knew for sure whether Allah loved you or not?
If you knew for certain that He loved you, would you strive to maintain that love? Would you do the best you could not to ever fall out of His favor?
Or would you take His love for granted and start doing a few sins here and there? After all, He does love you right? He’ll forgive you eventually, right?
But what if you knew for sure that He didn’t love you? What would you do differently if you knew that if you died right now, you would have to face His wrath?
- Would you analyze yourself for bad deeds and bad habits and try to work them out of your system?
- Would you immediately start taking action and adding some good deeds and good habits into your repertoire to balance out the bad?
- Or would you just throw your hands up in the air and say something like: “Well, I’m going to hell anyway, might as well enjoy what little time I have.”?
Hopefully, not that last one.
There’s no precise way to know if Allah loves you because you are not receiving revelation from Allah. All you can do is try to do those things that will make Him love you and try to stay away from those things that will lose His love.
Let’s be clear about one thing: it is not part of Islamic teachings that Allah loves all of us. Some faiths make a big deal about how much God (Allah) loves them because they are His chosen people or devout followers.
That doesn’t fly in Islam. Allah is not going to love you simply based on the fact that you call yourself Muslim. You have to work to earn His love.
Rather, what you really need is a combination of both: belief in Allah that is proven by good deeds.
For now, let’s look at some of the things you can do to help ensure that Allah does love you. Everything will be based on hadiths and quotations from the Quran.
Love To Meet Allah
If you love Allah – I mean truly, truly love Allah – then you’re going to want to love meeting Him. You’re going to highly anticipate that moment when Allah will reveal Himself to the Believers.
Narrated Jarir: Allah’s Messenger (pbuh) came out to us on the night of the full moon and said: “You will see your Lord on the Day of Resurrection as you see this (full moon) and you will have no difficulty in seeing Him.”
That’s the proof that those of us that make it to Paradise will actually see Allah. And this isn’t in some metaphorical sense. This is the literal truth. We will see Allah just as we see the full moon.
Do The Obligatory (Fard Or Wajib) Acts And Then Do The Voluntary (Mustahabb) Acts
The most important thing, after having faith, is to obey Allah. In fact, obedience to Allah and His Messenger (pbuh) is the true manifestation of faith.
Because if you believe that Allah is real and His punishment is real and His reward is real, you’re not going to wilfully disobey Him.
So if you’re trying to make sure that Allah loves you, you’re going to make sure you follow His commandments. You’re going to make sure you are doing those things that He and His Messenger has commanded us to do.
And if you really want to earn His love, you’re going to take it a few steps further. You won’t be content with just doing the bare minimum. Because you love Allah and want to please Him and you also want Him to love you back, you’re going to go the extra mile.
That means you’re going to do the voluntary, or recommended, acts as well. Sometimes these things are called Naafil or Sunnah or Mustahaabb. Whatever you call it, you’re going to do it. Especially considering the following hadith.
Verily Allah ta’ala has said: ‘Whosoever shows enmity to a wali (friend) of Mine, then I have declared war against him. And My servant does not draw near to Me with anything more loved to Me than the religious duties I have obligated upon him. And My servant continues to draw near to me with nafil (supererogatory) deeds until I Love him. When I Love him, I am his hearing with which he hears, and his sight with which he sees, and his hand with which he strikes, and his foot with which he walks. Were he to ask of Me, I would surely give it to him; and were he to seek refuge with Me, I would surely grant him refuge.’
Do Good Deeds
This is probably the biggest no-brainer.
Just, be good. Be a good person. Do good things. Do good and Allah will love you. He says so Himself:
And spend in the way of Allah and do not throw yourselves with your hands into destruction. And do good; indeed, Allah loves the doers of good.
Chapter 2, verse 195.
This goes along with the previous point. We are instructed to believe in Allah. But belief alone is not enough.
That belief is manifested, it is proven, by doing good deeds. If we do good, even though it may be against our natural inclination, that is evidence of our faith.
For instance, fasting goes against our nature. It is natural for humans to want to eat and drink as much as they want. But as Muslims, we restrain these natural desires during Ramadan for the sake of Allah.
This is a good deed that proves your faith. Why else would you hold yourself back from something that is normally beneficial and good? You do so, because you know the reward from Allah is even better!
There’s another way to get rewards from Allah besides doing good deeds. You can earn Allah’s reward by refraining from bad deeds also. This is sometimes much more difficult to do because most bad deeds come with some form of immediate pleasure.
But yes, whoever fulfills his commitment and fears Allah – then indeed, Allah loves those who fear Him.
Chapter 3, verse 76
Fearing Allah comes from piety, or God-consciousness. This means you try to be conscious of the fact that Allah sees you and hears you and knows everything that you’re doing.
That is a natural shame that Allah has put in us to help us stay away from evil. It is necessary and we should always try to cover up our bad deeds.
Nonetheless, I’m sure you know that there’s no hiding from Allah. You can’t hide your sins from Allah. Fearing Allah, and being God-conscious should make you want to stay away from sins completely.
Because no matter how well you hide them from your loved ones, Allah is aware of everything that you do.
Repent For Your Sins
The truth is, no matter how much you fear Allah, you’re going to make mistakes. You’re going to slip up and commit a sin. It’s inevitable.
But Allah, in His Mercy, has given you a way out. You can repent to Him and wipe out your sins. And you can repent for any and every sin, no matter how devious or bad or nasty it was. Allah is all-forgiving.
And when you repent to Allah and beg for His Mercy and seek His forgiveness, this causes Allah to love you.
Indeed, Allah loves those who are constantly repentant and loves those who purify themselves.
Chapter 2, verse 222.
Repentance is key to earning Allah’s love. If you do not repent to Allah constantly, you are allowing your bad deeds to stack up.
And it’s foolish to put off or procrastinate repentance. You have no idea when you’ll return to Allah. So the smart thing to do is to repent immediately, and repent often.
I know. You’re always being advised to be patient. You’ve probably heard it a hundred-million-billion times. Perhaps you’re tired of being patient.
My advise: Your patience needs more patience. (Thank you Jackie Chan).
There’s a reason Muslims are always advising each other to be patient. Because this is a mark of faith in Allah.
But it does mean that you’re not going to allow this pain to drive you away from Islam.
And how many a prophet fought alongside religious scholars. But they never lost assurance due to what afflicted them in the cause of Allah , nor did they weaken or submit. And Allah loves the steadfast.
Chapter 3, verse 146.
I get many emails from people suffering from all sorts of problems. These problems range from bad marriages, to unrequited love, to rude children, to joblessness, to depression, to suicidal thoughts, to weak faith, to terrible sicknesses, and much, much more.
My first piece of advice to all of them is: Be Patient.
My second piece of advice is usually…
Trust In Allah
This is probably even more difficult than being patient.
To be patient, you really just need to stay the course and keep your mouth shut. While that may be difficult at the onset of tragedy, it becomes easier as time goes on.
Trusting in Allah, however can become more difficult as time goes by.
To trust in Allah means that you know, in your core being, that Allah will take care of you. You know that whatever happens or has happened, is for the best. This means you completely rely and depend on Allah.
This is easy to say when the tragedy first hits.
But as the days turn into weeks and the weeks turn into months, it becomes easier to succumb to Shaytan’s whispers. It becomes very easy to begin questioning Allah.
First you might just question Him in your mind. You might allow little thoughts to come through like:
- “Why did Allah let this happen to me?”
- “Why won’t Allah answer my duas?”
- “Haven’t I been a good person? What have I done to deserve this punishment from Allah?”
These bad thoughts, if they’re not immediately dispelled and protected against, can turn into open statements of defiance and disbelief. I’ve had many emails and comments from people on this website saying things like:
- “Allah must hate me.”
- “It’s like Allah is forcing me to do evil.”
- “Allah has abandoned me.”
La hawla wa laa quwata illa billah.
If only these people truly understood the gravity of what they’re saying. How can anyone expect to Allah to love them when they make these statements?
If you want Allah to love you, then you have to make sure you trust in Allah throughout your ordeals.
So pardon them (your companions) and ask forgiveness for them and consult them in the matter. And when you have decided, then trust in Allah . Indeed, Allah loves those who trust in Him.
Chapter 3, verse 159.
Be Just and Fair
Part of trusting in Allah is knowing that He is the Most Just. He distributes both good and hardship with perfect wisdom and justice. And as Allah is Just, He commands us to be just and fair as well.
At some point of time in your life, you’re going to have authority over another person. You may be the leader of a nation or a company or a city or perhaps just the leader of your family.
But you’re going to be responsible for someone else. When Allah gives you this authority, it is your duty to use it in a just and fair matter. And you’re going to have to be fair regardless of who you’re in charge of.
It doesn’t matter whether you like them or not; you have a duty to be fair and just at all times. Consider the following verse:
Allah does not forbid you from those who do not fight you because of religion and do not expel you from your homes – from being righteous toward them and acting justly toward them. Indeed, Allah loves those who act justly.
Chapter 60, verse 8.
In this verse, Allah is telling Muslims how they should treat non-Muslims. Allah is ordering us to be fair and just to people who do not even worship Allah. So how much more important it is for us to be fair and just to fellow Muslims!
Be Prepared To Fight For Allah
That previous point shouldn’t be taken out of context. Allah ordered us to be fair and just to those non-Muslims who do not fight Muslims and do not expel them from their homes. But that doesn’t mean we have to “turn the other cheek” or accept oppression.
Fighting in the Path of Allah is an essential part of Islam. That fight may be physical, or it may be monetary, or it may even be spiritual.
But fighting, struggling, and striving for the Sake of Allah is the ultimate test of our piety.
Indeed, Allah loves those who fight in His cause in a row as though they are one structure joined firmly.
Chapter 61, verse 4.
That is the truth. You can take it or leave it.
Now is the time for you to check yourself and see if you meet any of these qualities. If you do not have them…then it may very well be possible that Allah doesn’t love you.