Are You Making Istikhaarah Incorrectly?

I’ve found that many Muslims misunderstand, and misapply the powerful dua we know as Istikhaarah, the dua when making a decision. A lot of Muslims are making Istikhaarah expecting a sign from Allah, or to see something in a dream.

This is a dangerous application as it opens ourselves up to the tricks of Shaytan. In this video, I show using logic, the Quran, and the Sunnah the proper way of making Istikhaarah.

Ultimately, when we make Istikhaarah, we are putting our trust in Allah. This is a deeper level of Islamic belief rather than simply waiting for “sign.”

Istikhaarah. Which Decision To Make?

Within the dua itself, there are lines that indicate we make Istikhaarah after having come to a decision. Inshallah, all of this is explained in the video.


Dua Istikhaarah

O Allaah, I seek Your counsel by Your knowledge and by Your power I seek strength and I ask You from Your immense favour, for verily You are able while I am not and verily You know while I do not and You are the Knower of the unseen. O Allaah, if You know this affair -and here he mentions his need- to be good for me in relation to my religion, my life, and end, then decree and facilitate it for me, and bless me with it, and if You know this affair to be ill for me towards my religion, my life, and end, then remove it from me and remove me from it , and decree for me what is good wherever it be and make me satisfied with such.

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7 Responses to Are You Making Istikhaarah Incorrectly?

  1. i highly appreciated this post,,
    but i want to ask you if you can make it to english this dua coz i want it to memorize in arabic,,i know a little in reading arabic but i dont want to have mistake or memorize a wrong one.
    waiting for your reply thank u so much

  2. Salaam Abu Ibrahim,
    Your post was very helpful, however, the decision I need to make is very complicated. I have known a boy for the past 2 years, and we have always intended to marry each other. We are young and still dependent on our parents. Though, the boy has told his parents about his decision to marry me, they do not give their consent as they wish to marry him elsewhere. Te boy has told me he is not sure whether he will be able to convince his folks over a period of time or not, but will try his best. I want to wait for him and tell my parents so, but I am afraid it will hurt them. Also, I am uncertain of whether it is the right thing to do. How will the istakhara help me?
    Eagerly waiting you reply.

  3. Once you do Istikarah especially in regards to marriage, say it is NOT good for you, wouldn’t Allah take it away instantly/quickly as opposed to causing mental/emotional agony?

    On the other hand if the ‘matter’ is still with you for a few years – AFTER you did istikharah – then does that mean it will happen? because surely if it wasnt meant to happen, it would have been taken away in a short space of time.

    Kindly advise

    • Allah knows best in these matters. But sometimes, we need to go through hardships in order to come closer to Allah. While the agony may be hurtful at the time, we might find that in the end, we’ve become better Muslims and stronger individuals.

      Or perhaps one may have to go through a bad marriage in order to appreciate a second spouse.

      The most important thing is to make Istikhaarah, and put your trust in Allah with the outcome. I’ve experienced on more than one occasion where I made Istikhaarah and then something that I thought was bad happened. But in reality, I later learned that evil was necessary for my overall growth as a Muslim.

  4. i have kwown a boy for a long time,we both like each other and intended to get married but after a few weeks of proposal my heart felt really heavy and i cried a lot so i prayed istikhara but my heart was still heavy and still cried ,then i backed off from this marriage and felt is my istikhara right?

  5. I want you to do an istikhaarah for me I want to find out are we going to solve all our problems we own alot of people money when we had a business I had such a happy marriage but now when ever my husband see me he is just all the time anger cant even talk to me nicely we are facing a heard time with money my husband doesn’t even have a job, I am the only one who is working and paying for all the bills, even then he just keeps shouting and me, please ask allah why all this is happening please I dont now how to pay the istikhaarah namaz my name is Naseem and my husbands name is Rajendra please can you help me. thank you

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