How To Have A Successful Marriage
Islamic Learning Materials was not created to save marriages. It was originally meant to help Muslims and non-Muslims alike learn more about the fundamentals of Islam.
But I’ve learned over the years that if your personal life is a wreck, it won’t be too long before your spiritual is a wreck also. You can remain spiritually strong throughout a personal or marital crisis. However, it’s much easier to focus on worshiping Allah if you don’t have to focus so much on saving your marriage.
In the past year and a half, ILM (Islamic Learning Materials) has begun to focus more on helping Muslims in their married lives. The information I provide to do so is based primarily on Quran and Sunnah. And I also add in a good dose of experience, common sense, and real life successes.
I myself have been married to the same woman for 14 years. We got married when I was 22 and she was 21. There have definitely been ups and downs, but overall, I know Allah has blessed me with a good wife and a good relationship.
One of the keys to our success, I believe, is that we received premarital counseling. I sincerely believe that a good dose of counseling at the beginning of a marriage can help save a lot of trouble later on.
The Rough Years
Most marriages run into trouble in the first five years. That’s when two people are learning to live together and finding out what they like and don’t like about each other. This is when most marital problems begin. Sometimes these problems just fester under the surface and boil over years later. But almost always, the problems start in these early, critical years of marriage.
Once a couple have been married over 7 years, it becomes increasingly more difficult to iron out any issues. This is especially true for older people.
That’s why I believe it’s critical to tackle these issues early on, before too many children are involved.
Start Out Strong
If you’re just starting off in marriage, or if you’re preparing to get married, you should seriously consider counseling. Even if you don’t think anything is wrong with your relationship. It would still be a good idea to talk openly with someone about your fears and desires.
Just fill out the form below to get started. Inshallah, this will be one of the best decisions you’ve ever made.