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5 Reasons Your Duas Aren’t Answered

You Pray And You Pray…

Frustrating isn’t it? You pray and you pray. You make long duas and just pour your heart out. You beg and you plead to Allah to give you something or remove some harm from you.

But no matter how hard you supplicate, your duas just don’t seem to get answered. And you have no idea why.

You’re not a bad person. There are worse people out there than you. Why won’t Allah answer your duas? What are you doing wrong? Is there some secret formula or secret code to getting the Almighty to respond?

Let me first put your mind at ease by letting you know that Allah hears everything you say, and He knows everything you desire.

And when My servants ask you, concerning Me – indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me and believe in Me that they may be guided.

So rest assured, that Allah hears you. But look at the last part of that verse. Allah commands us to respond to Him and Believe in Him.

Are you doing that? Have you responded to Allah and His messenger (peace be upon him)? Is your belief (imaan) complete?

Perhaps you’re lacking in a few areas. Or perhaps it’s something even deeper than that. Let’s look at a few reasons that might be holding your duas up.

Photo courtesy Bogdan Migulski

1. You Aren’t Doing Your Part.

This might be the most obvious problem. You want Allah to give you this and give you that, but you aren’t giving Him anything in return.

  • You’re not praying regularly.
  • You’re not fasting during Ramadan.
  • You’re not paying your Zakah.

I’m sure you understand that Allah punishes us for the wrong we do. That punishment is not just in the hereafter; it can also happen in this life. Neglecting the 5 pillars of Islam is sinful and will earn Allah’s punishment.

Perhaps that’s why He’s not giving you what you want. So stop backsliding and straighten up. Do what He has commanded you to do and you might see your life improve through dua.

2. You Are Impatient.

You just couldn’t wait could you? You asked Allah for something over and over again, and when you didn’t get it when you wanted it, you got impatient.

And so you gave up. You stopped asking and started believing that Allah wasn’t going to answer your dua. And then you went and told someone that Allah didn’t answer your prayers.

The supplication of a slave continues to be granted as long as he does not supplicate for a sinful thing or for something that would cut off the ties of kinship and he does not grow impatient.” It was said: “O Messenger of Allah! What does growing impatient mean?” He (PBUH) said, “It is one’s saying: `I supplicated again and again but I do not think that my prayer will be answered.’ Then he becomes frustrated (in such circumstances) and gives up supplication altogether.
Related in Muslim.

Your knowledge is limited. But Allah’s knowledge is unlimited. You might think you want something right now, but Allah knows better when it is right to give it to you.

Perhaps He didn’t give it to you at that time because it would bring you more harm than good. Perhaps He wanted to test you and had you been patient with the test, He would have rewarded you with something better. Only Allah knows.

But since you became impatient, and said the wrong thing and stopped making dua, you lost out on everything.

3. You Ask For Something Evil.

This should be a no-brainer.

Why would anyone ask Allah for something bad? Is that what you did? Did you ask Allah for something that would bring you sin?

  • Did you ask Him to give you a girlfriend or boyfriend?
  • Did you ask Him to to give you a Riba-based loan so you could buy a house or car?
  • Did you ask Him to bring you income from a job that sells pork or alcohol?

Well if you did, now you know why He didn’t answer your supplication.

4. You Don’t Think You’re Gonna Get It.

Why would you even ask Allah for something if you don’t believe He’s gonna give it to you? What’s the point of supplicating Allah if you don’t have any faith that it’s gonna happen?

Impossible and possible is all in your mind. Just because you don’t think it can happen, doesn’t mean it won’t. And it certainly doesn’t mean Allah can’t make it happen.

Don’t you know that Allah is:

  • Al-Aziz – The Mighty
  • Al-Samad – The One that everything relies upon
  • Al-Qadir – The Powerful

Don’t make half-hearted duas. Make your duas with confidence that Allah will grant them. Especially if you’re asking for something good and beneficial.

Abu Huraira reported: “None of you should say, ‘O Allah, forgive me if You wish, (or) O Allah, have mercy on me if you wish.’ Rather you should be firm in your request, for (Allah does whatever He wishes) and no one can force Him to do otherwise.”

That just about says it all.

5. You Are Involved In Too Much Evil.

Read the following hadith:

“O people, Allah is Good and He, therefore, accepts only that which is good. And Allah commanded the believers as He commanded the Messengers by saying, ‘O Messengers, eat of the good things, and do good deeds; verily I am aware of what you do,’ Qur’an 23.51 and He said: ‘O those who believe, eat of the good things that We gave you’.” Qur’an 2.172 The Prophet, peace be upon him, then made mention of a person who travels widely, his hair dishevelled, and covered with dust. “He lifts his hands and makes supplication, ‘O Lord, O Lord,’ but his diet is unlawful, his drink is unlawful, and his clothes are unlawful, and his nourishment is unlawful. How then can his supplication be accepted?“

Narrated in Muslim.

There are many things you can take from this hadith regarding your duas. Let’s look at some of them:

  • Allah is good and He only likes that which is good. So if you’re good, then He will give you good.
  • The things we eat and consume have an affect on our spirituality and closeness to Allah.
  • Just because you’re going through a difficult time, it doesn’t mean Allah is obligated to answer your prayers.
  • We are commanded to follow the example of the Prophets of Allah (peace be upon all of them).

Inshallah, I hope this serves as a reminder for both you and me on what it takes to come closer to Allah and have our duas answered.

219 Responses to 5 Reasons Your Duas Aren’t Answered

  1. muhammad jafar says:

    assalam, iam very thankful to ALLAH that i have received such educative mail .
    please keep it up

    m. jafar

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam Muhammad Jafar,

      And I am very thankful for the opportunity to provide this information by the permission of Allah. May Allah forgive us all and accept our good deeds. Ameen!

      • Talal says:

        Asalamikum
        I was searching for a dua in case something was not happening in one’s favor and came across this link. I have been searching for a job for quite some time now, and it’s really frustrating when things don’t seem to work out and you give your best. I am really glad I read this link which has helped me highlight some of my drawbacks with regard to my Dua’s for getting a job. I’ve gotten impatient and actually stated to believe that things wont work out or go in my favor.
        This link has really made me evaluate myself. May Allah give me the strength to do my best physically and spiritually.
        Thank you for the Share. Really worth the read. May Allah guide us all. Aamen !

        Talal.

      • Rushda says:

        As-Salam Alaykum brother. There’s a question that has been on my mind for a while now. A while back, my girlfriend’s brother told me that he liked me and that he would like to marry me, at the time, I wasn’t interested in him or anyone else so I turned him down. Last year, I made the pilgrimage and I asked Allah to help me with a good husband. When I returned home, I realized that my feelings for my friend’s brother changed. He told me that his offer still stands. We started talking over the phone and on BBM, not a day goes by that he doesn’t send me a message to check up on me. I am not ready for marriage just yet as I want to finish my degree. I’m turning 22 in november and I want to wait till I’m 25 before I get married. I’ve told my mother about him, I’m too shy to tell my father. My mother is my best friend and I tell her everything. My question now is, is this haram? I don’t hug him or touch him or shake hands with him. I’m always on full hijab whenever I visit my friend and he is around. We talk a lot over BBM and he and I have exchanged plans for the future and hopes and dreams. Please advice me on what to do. Jazak Allah Khair

        • Abu Ibrahim says:

          Wa Alaikum Salaam,

          Yes, communicating with him and there is no formal engagement and you’re not married is haraam. You should stop doing that as it usually leads to problems later on.

          The primary problem that happens, especially in your case where you want to delay marriage for another 3 years, is that one party (usually the guy) doesn’t want to wait so long. So he finds another love interest who’s ready to get married and his first interest is left alone and hurt. This will hurt no matter what, but it’s especially painful when you’ve been communicating for several years and have grown attached to him.

          I truly do suggest you marry him ASAP, and not wait until you’re 25. If you two like each other, and you feel he’d make a good husband, go for it. You can still finish school, InshaAllah. My primary concern is that he may lose interest in you if you decide to wait that long.

          And Allah knows best.

  2. Kaheesha says:

    Asalamikum
    I wanted to ask if you pray to be with someone even though they are married is that bad I have never asked Allah to break them up is that still considered as being bad?? Thank you

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam Kaheesha,

      Yeah, that would be considered pretty bad. You should want for your brother/sister what you want for yourself. And there’s proof of this also from an authentic hadith.

      Abu Hurairah reported: A woman should not ask for the divorce of her sister, to make her bowl empty and to marry (her husband). She will have what is decreed for her.

      Sunan Abu Dawud

      Instead, if you can handle polygamy ask him to marry you (I’m assuming you’re a woman) as a second wife, or just pray that Allah gives you a husband just as good or better than he.

      May Allah make it easy for you and bless you with a good marriage.

  3. Maha says:

    I have a question I wanted to ask you about a sister.
    My friend thinks its ok and not haram to go to the supermarket and when buying fruits or vegetables she puts in a different weight code to make it cheaper. Is it haram what she is doing. Also sometimes when she buys stuff at the mall and had ripped just soon she buy it she would go back to store and take a new one. Without buying saying its for the messed up one I bought. Is this haram??
    What are the consequences of stealing?

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Thank you for submitting your question, Maha.

      Certainly, for the first instance, that is haraam. This is what the people of Shuaib used to do, the only difference is they were the sellers, not the buyers.

      But Allah has warned us many times of cheating other people in business, even if the other person is not Muslim. We must do what is right in all instances.

      Allah says in His Book:

      Woe to those who give less than what is due. Who, when they take measure from people they take it in full, but if they give weight to them they give them a loss. Do they not think they’ll be resurrected?

      Chapter 83 verses 1-5

      Please advise your friend to stop this practice immediately, ask Allah for repentance, and pay the people she cheated back what they owe as best as she can.

      For the second issue, I am not certain. Most likely the store has a return policy, but she is obviously not returning the product according to their policy. Allah knows best if this is stealing or not. But it is certainly not honest nor is it honorable. She should be upfront with the seller about what happened and ask for a new product or her money back or whatever can be negotiated.

      I would suggest you ask others about this one. Inshallah, if I get further information from someone more knowledgeable than I am I will post it here.

      And Allah knows best.

      • Maha says:

        Thank you. I will show her this message.
        I wanted to also ask you for myself.
        I buy and sell products online for example hajabs for women. I buy in bulk so I get it cheaper. When I sell it I sell it like 2 to $3 dollers for profit. I read what u said about the sellers. Is this wrong what I’m doing? Making extra money for an item about a couple dollers less?
        Thank you

        • Abu Ibrahim says:

          Wa Alaikum Salaam Maha,

          I’m not sure why it took me so long to find this second message. I don’t think the website sent me an email notification about it…sorry for taking so long to respond.

          In short, no it is okay to sell something at a profit. That is business and that is how business is done. You buy it from one person at one price, then sell it to another person at a higher price. Many of the Prophet’s (pbuh) companions were merchants and they did the same thing.

          There are a few caveats…if you have a monopoly on an essential item like water or rice, you shouldn’t charge exorbitant prices on that. And you cannot cheat your customers either. The verse I mentioned above is for people who list one price for their goods, then when they weigh it, they secretly add more weight to it so the customer is paying for more than what they actually have.

          That is fraud and trickery.

  4. saaa says:

    Salaam! I feel the need to say the list is indeed a bit incomplete. Aside from the negative and true reasons listed theres also the. Fact that some prayers aren’t answered because something that exceeds what we ask for is to come. It could be something that relates to yet is still better than what was asked for or it could be something that results from the prayer not being answered will better please us or because what we ask for isn’t good for us though we may know not and if Allah is pleased with you He may keep it away from you for that reason and bless you with what is good for you.

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam Saaa,

      You are absolutely right. Thank you for adding your valid points. To be fair, I wasn’t trying to make this a complete list. As you mentioned, there are many reasons why Allah may not accept our duas, some of which we’ll never comprehend in this life.

      I was just trying to bring up a few possibilities.

      Nonetheless, thank you for your input and please post more information if you’d like.

      Jazakallah Khair.

  5. sam says:

    Asalamikum,

    i just have one question and it has been on my mind for months now..
    what if you make dua’h to Allah swt to help fulfil your deen by marrying someone you’ve known your whole life, you know him inside out, but he does have a bad past and your parents think he isn’t right for you ?
    but you can’t think about marrying someone else because you’ve imagined everything with this person.. all good things in life..
    i pray 5 times a day, read dua’hs and always beg Allah swt which automatically makes me cry to help this one thing come my way?
    i have always been the girl who loves to put a smile on my loved ones faces, prayed for others happiness cos their happiness is mine.. believe it or not this is the first time i want something to come my way but obviously only Allah knows whats really my nature and in my heart…

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam Sr. Sam,

      Love is powerful drug. So powerful, that sometimes it makes us ignore our common sense and logic.

      My sister, I do not know the man you speak of, but you have admitted yourself that he has a bad past. Now, just how bad that past is, I don’t know. But you should be very wary about marrying someone like this, especially if you’re young and this is your first marriage.

      I can only go by the information you’ve given me, and I have to agree with your parents on this one. It seems as if they see something in him that they don’t want you to get mixed up with. And by the sound of it, you see this also, but you are hoping that he may change. Of course it is possible that he may change, but why should you risk it?

      Your second concern seems to be why your duas and prayers in this regard aren’t being answered. Only Allah knows the unseen, so I cannot say what His decree is. But, perhaps Allah loves your worship and wants to protect you from the harm that may come from marrying this fellow. Perhaps Allah has favored you enough to protect you from something that even though your heart wants it, He knows it is not right for you.

      So rather than give you what might bring you temporary happiness, Allah in His infinite wisdom and kindness, denies your requests because He knows that the long term ramifications of this thing.

      I repeat, only Allah truly knows what is best for you. He knows better than you or your parents. I would advise you, in this situation to be patient and ask Allah to bring you a good husband who will encourage you to become and even better Muslim and who will work with you to raise a righteous and beautiful Muslim family.

      Please read the following verse of Quran and truly put your trust in Allah.

      Trust in Allah

      And please read this article I wrote about patience and trusting in Allah.

      And Allah knows best.

    • Shuaanmiah says:

      I am going through such painful time, I can’t control my tongue it just slips out out of anger, and I say things that I shouldn’t say to ALLAH, e.g. “Why me” or “I wish I never existed” and went so extreme out of anger and said” I will not pray anymore”. I am a bit concerned with myself, do I have to say my shahada in public or can proclaim as an individual.

      • Your Shahada is still valid. Make dua to Allah for patience and strive hard to control your tongue. When you make a mistake or you slip, then make Tawbah (repentance) and ask Allah to forgive you. He is the most forgiving and forgives all sins if your repentance in sincere.

        Don’t despair of the Mercy of Allah.

  6. Kaan says:

    Aselam alikum – Hey brothers/sister I’m a Turkish Muslim elhamdullah. I love Islam so much i do all my prayers fast and give money to the poor i love, the messenger of Allah (peace be upon him). I have a question now why is it haram to ask Allah for a girlfriend? if you are in love with someone why is that bad loving what Allah created isn’t it good to love what Allah created?

    • Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      Alhamdulillah you seem to be a faithful Muslim who strives to do what pleases Allah. May Allah reward you for your efforts.

      Allah has put a high value on family relationships. Allah values family so much, that He has made it sinful for us to disrespect our mothers and fathers, even if they’re not Muslim.

      When people have girlfriends and boyfriends, this almost always leads to sexual intercourse outside of marriage. And this leads to broken families where the child may or may not know who their father is and the mother has to struggle to get her child’s rights from the father.

      When the family breaks down, it isn’t too much longer for society to break down and we can see that now in many parts of the world. People do not value life, random acts of violence occur regularly, and it all stems from the destruction of the family unit.

      It may seem like a small thing, but if Allah has forbidden relationships outside of marriage, He did so for a good reason.

      If you love a girl, then ask to marry her. It is that simple. If you truly love her, you should respect her enough to want to give her honor by marrying her and helping her raise a good, Muslim family.

      If you’re not ready for marriage because you do not have the money yet, then you must be patient and ask Allah for the wealth you need to get married. But not having money is no excuse to do something that displeases Allah.

      • LEMA says:

        Asalamolaykom!
        i need serious help plz,
        I love one boy I know hem for 6 years. 6 years ago when I meet hem he was drinking and flirting with girls he never pryed I was talking with hem everyday on the phone he was far from me I was talking with hem about islam good and bad thinks I chanched hem he stop drinking after 3 year he moved in my city he promised me that he will get married with me when he moved in my city he didn’t had job I helped hem a lot with finance and finding job for hem every month I paid his rent I gave to hem my all money I just want hem to be happy. When I was asking about married he told me wait one ar to more year. He told me that he don’t have enaugh money to marrie me now and he start prying he was really nice to me. In january 2012 he joined Army because he was getting alots of money. He went with US Army in my back home for one year I was prying and crying everyday. My parent want me to get married but I was waiting for hem. And now 2 weeks ago he came back I prepared for my widding I told my parents. He spend 2 days with me and he told me that his going to his parent home and bring them to my home to talk with my parent. In next day he didn’t call me I called hem his phone shows off I was worried I called his mom. His mom sayd that he didn’t came here I fter few hours he picked up my phone a asked hem where are you he told me that I went for one Week vacation with my friend but I don’t want you tell where I’m coming after one week. I was shoked I cryed he cut the phone he told me don’t call me let me enjoy my vacation. I couldn’t stop my self I checked his email I found I phone number I called on that number a girl picked up the phone I asked her that you know hem she sayd no she asked me who your I told her that I’m his fiance she sayd nothing I cut the phone after 5 min he text me sayd to me why did you called my friends wife. Whay you not letting me alone I don’t have nothing with you I will end this relationship don’t call me anymore. I sayd sorry to hem he sayd that he can not live mith me he chanched his number and he delet me from his email. Now I cry every day I can’t sleep I don’t know what tell my parents now I was waiting for hem 6 year and now he lift me. I pry 5 times and I gave hem bad DUA BUT I Love hem so much I can’t live without hem. Now I Don’t Know That I Gave hem BAD DUA OR DUA to Get hem back GIVE me PLZ An Advice

        • Abu Ibrahim says:

          Wa Alaikum Salaam Sister Lema,

          I’m so sorry you’ve had such a bad experience with this guy.

          You said he joined the military and he served overseas. There’s no telling how that may have changed his attitude. Being in the military changes some people in very drastic ways.

          Also, regardless of how much this may hurt you, you have to understand that this may be a Mercy from Allah. From what you’ve told me, he may not be a very good Muslim and may not make a good husband. Of course, you have wasted 6 years on him. I know that is very painful.

          But perhaps this is Allah taking something bad away from you in order to give you something better.

          Be patient and put your trust in Allah. Continue praying to Allah and asking Him to give you something better.

        • I feeel really sad 4 u ! :’(
          Never worry .. thank Allah that you got to.know his real charecter befor the marriage or it would have ended up with divorce !
          Never worry ..
          Some thng better is kept 4 u by Allah ..
          Everythng happnes 4 a reason ! :)

  7. shiney says:

    this was a very beneficial reminder…Jazakallah Khair for writing this. this is an amazing blog…keep it up!

  8. fari says:

    As salaamualaikum i really enjoyed reading ur article as i was searching my answers every where why Allah is not responding to my prayers and insha allah i will try to be patient….A request i would like to subscribe to ur blog to get updates is it possible?
    Jazak allahu khairan
    may Allah reward u for ur work
    Ameen

  9. Zaynab says:

    Salams! I have being upset about an issue for like 1year now! I have a boyfriend (which I know is bad :( and we are in a relationship for 2 years now. I was not religious before so I did not bother about getting into a relationship but now after I went for madarasa I understood that its very bad…. but since its pretty long period I find it very difficult to be without him plus I have decided to tell about him to my parents next year inshaallah. Is this okay? But my problem is when I started this relationship I was too young and not matured but now at times I feel Im with the wrong guy…. because he is very stubborn and gets angry way too quickly! Im scared to discuss about this with my parents or anyone else, I want an islamic advice on this because this thought whether I should tell my parents about him or if I should break up is simply killing me….. Im now not sure if he is the right guy for me…maybe my parents will be okay with him but after knowing his character Im having second thoughts. Can I ask dua for this? Please help

  10. Tayiba says:

    As Salaam u Alaikum,
    I read your article as well as your replies to some of the comments and i must say they are great! Jazak Allah you have helped me a lot. I would like to ask one thing though, i’m quite young right now but i really like this guy in my school. I don’t talk to him about anything wrong or do anything wrong like that. our family backgrounds are very similar so if we decide to get married or something there will be no issues on the matter. When i pray to Allah about him, i don’t ask Him to make him my boyfriend but i ask Him to arrange it in a way that when we both get older, we marry each other. Is that alright? Is it allowed or should i stop? And when i pray i ask Allah to make it a love marriage not arrange because i want him to love me too not just marry me because of our families, is that wrong?
    Also though he prays and everything, recently he has gotten a girlfriend, now i’m very confused as to what i should do..should i continue to pray the way i did or should i stop now that he has a girlfriend? and somehow subconsciously i started praying that they break apart…
    i don’t know what i should pray to Allah and how… i don’t want him to be my boyfriend, i want us to fall in love (i already love him but like proper love which lasts a lifetime) and then get married to each other…what should i pray? What should i ask Allah for? What words should I use? please help! sorry if this is very long :/
    Jazak Allah

    • Wa Alaikum Salaam Sister Tayiba,

      Take it easy sister. I understand your heart is full of desire for this boy. And sometimes, our emotions can make it difficult for us to think clearly. Love can be a wonderful thing, but it can also hurt like the dickens.

      To answer your primary question, yes, you can make dua to Allah for anything that is permissible and halaal. So if it is permissible for you to marry this boy (that is, you’re not married and he’s not a close relative) then yes, you can ask Allah to unite the two of you in marriage.

      However, as I mentioned in another comment, sometimes we want things that are not good for us. I understand your heart may really, really want this boy. But the truth is, only Allah truly knows if he is good for you.

      The fact that he has a girlfriend, does kind of concern me. If you were my biological sister or daughter, I don’t think I would advise you to pursue this young man.

      For one thing, he is violating Islamic law by spending so much time with a woman he’s not married to. He may not be having sex, but still, what he’s doing is not good.

      Secondly, it is obvious that he likes her and is interested in this girlfriend of his.

      I can understand your confusion, but perhaps this is Allah’s way of answering your prayers. Perhaps Allah is showing you that this boy is not the kind of man you want to marry because he did take a girlfriend. Perhaps Allah is showing you, in a subtle way, that this is not the man you should be pursuing and you should move on.

      I know that what I wrote may be hurtful. And truthfully, only Allah knows the truth. I might be wrong.

      I just think it would be best for you to stop thinking about this young man, put your trust in Allah, and be patient with whatever Allah gives you.

  11. hussain says:

    what if you asked allah for a girl to love you is that bad?

    • No, it’s not bad to ask Allah to give you a specific girl in marriage, so long as she is not already married (that would be bad). But as I mentioned in the previous comments, put your trust in Allah and be patient with whatever He gives you.

      Sometimes we want things that are not good for us. And Allah knows best.

  12. Hazel Eyes says:

    Asalam o aliquim, JazakAllah for posting the below Information.

  13. Nadia says:

    As-Sallaamu Alaikum,
    I have a big exam in one week and I am trying to pray as much and have as much faith as i can. I’m also trying to keep praying and some of my habits after the exam,
    but however, schoolwork is putting pressure on me for not taking or studying for the exam or praying
    should i quit my school work?

    • Wa Alaikum Salaam Sister Nadia,

      No, do not quit your school work. And don’t quit praying either. Just be moderate.

      I’m not sure if you’re just praying the five regular Salaats or if you’re adding on extra naafil and sunnah prayers as well. You can cut back on the sunnah and Naafil prayers as they’re not obligatory and you’ll get no sin for doing so. But you cannot slack up on the five daily prayers at all.

      You should really do an inventory of your life and see if there is some way you can better manage your time. Are you spending too much time on Facebook, or…ahem…perusing Muslim blogs?

      If so, perhaps you can cut back on these activities and use this time to study or rest.

      Inshallah, may Allah make you successful in your studies and may He bless you in your good work.

  14. mohammed says:

    what if your 13 and you love this girl alot and you ask allah for her to love you to

    • It’s okay to ask Allah for anything so long as it is halaal and permissible. No matter how much you love this girl and she loves you, you cannot touch her until you’re married. So you should be patient until you’re ready to get married.

  15. Iqbal says:

    i need serious help plz
    i always tired to stop masterb***** i try to not do it for the whole day but after magrib prayer i do it i try not but i just cant and after i do it i get this massive guilt about my self. Later in the day I get this ocd from nowhere i think about squeezing my head then i do it then a few days later something else pops in my head like pull you nose then i do it the ocd thing never stops, like new stuff i think about then i do it. Few years i was a good Muslim pray 5 times a day read quran fast during the month if Ramadan but in this 2012 Ramadan i did the evils thing like Masterb… i say to myself i will stop tomorrow but it never happens… but now i dont even read quran because of this plz. help …i got no support in this because no 1 knows i do thins evil stuff and im to embarrass to tell my family

    • AMIN says:

      SALAM,AS MUSLIMS WE DON’T CONFESS OUR SINS TO ANYONE BUT ALLAH.KEEP HATING THIS EVIL HABIT,TAKE A FARDH GHUSUL EVERYTIME YOU COMMIT THIS SIN.THEN NEVER GIVE UP ASKING ALLAH FOR HELP AGAINST THIS EVIL HABIT.RECITE ‘SAYYIDUL ISTAGHFAAR’,EVERY MORNING AND EVENING.INSHALLAH,YOU WILL EVENTUALLY STOP THIS EVIL HABIT FOR GOOD.

  16. miss pink says:

    AS SAKMUALAIKUM
    i kno that relationship before marriage is haram now,but when i got into one didnot kno that.ive been with a boy for almost 3 years n i feel so guilty infront of ALLAH bcoz of this. i pray n try to do my level best what pleases ALLAH.but this thing!!it’s hard to leave him but staying with him is also hard bcoz it displeases ALLAH.i kno i shud leave him n it shud b jihad on my part but its just hard:(…im doing this sin n i also pray.will ALLAH accept my prayer my fasting my takbirs my sadaqa?does it mean my namaz are invalid as its not stop me from such sin?.i kno ALLAH loves everyone but will this gain ALLAH’S wrath although i ask forgiveness n tell HiM MY weakness towards this boy?i cannot get married now because he is not earning but he promises to marry me as he says he loves me.i also fear my marriage may not last or may not turn good if i marry him or if ALLAH wills somewhere as i went against ALLAH’S will.i love ALLAH But disobey him many times even after that will ALLAH love me knowing i love HIM N always try to please him,and again having a bf at the same time… plz help me,,n i f i have to leave this boy how do i do it we stay at university all the time n dont have the courage to say it..

  17. irfan says:

    Salam brother,
    I used to work in convenience stores, and cheated the owners at the cash registers, also I cheated banks by not paying the debts and left that country for good, plus I lied a lot for jobs and other important things in my life. I am ashamed and feel guilty for every moment of life, I pray nafil salat and pray for the people whom I cheated and duped. It is very hard or impossible for me to find these persons to seek their pardon and pay their debts. I know all this is against haquul ibad, please is there any way I get out of this regret.
    Salam
    Irfan

    • Imran Ali says:

      Salam, if you ask/tubha ALLAH SWT will forgive you only if you believe that what you did it’s wrong. If you want to speak to some one, please email me. I attend a class every Wednesday, you will feel better. Imranali002@gmail.com

  18. Farheen Qureshi says:

    assalamoalaikum
    i m madly in love with a boy and we are in a relationship from last 5 years in starting he loved me a lot but from last 2-3 years he dont loves me much he gets angry with insults me for no reason i think something happened to him anytype of blackmajic can u help me so that he becomes good n loving again

  19. Ali says:

    hi i am going through rly difficult time i was wondering is there any dua i could do at any time i need a dua for money because i cant pay my fee for something many student got in for free even i would have gone in free but i have no status and is no coming eitheir is going to many months i have to admitt i am very impatient and demand things thank you for showing me this. but i am falling behind the place is asking for money that i cannot pay for is ther any dua i could read to help finically and to get the status faster. i am reading surah muzammil seven times.thank you.

  20. vlada says:

    salaamu aleikum. I am now in my last year of school and inshalaah will start university next year, But there is one particular university i wish to attend but there are some issues with documents and i dont know how things will turn out. I really really wish to go there to become a surgeon, now if i say duas to allah could he possibly grant this wish for me? ( i ofcourse take in to consideration my grades, which are already very high.

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      Yes, you can make dua for this. Just keep in mind that Allah knows what’s best for us. Sometimes we want things that are not good and we hate things that are good. So make your duas, but put your trust in Allah and be patient with what He gives you.

  21. Sara says:

    Salam brother is it alright for me to ask Allah if he can will for me to marry this boy I love thankyou

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      Yes you can ask Allah for anything that is good and halaal. So long as this man is not married and you do not ask Allah to have him divorce his current wife in order to marry you, you can make dua to marry him.

      Just be patient with this as matters of the heart can often make us think and do strange things. Be patient with what Allah gives you and remember that we often want things that are not good for us and hate things that are good for us.

  22. Sara says:

    I agree about everything you said except for (•Just because you’re going through a difficult time, it doesn’t mean Allah is obligated to answer your prayers.)
    I am really shocked about what you worte here. Yes allah is not obligated to answer our prayers but he’s the one who wants us to keep praying to him if we have any problem or anything difficult in our life. I was satisfied with what you wrote until i read this part at the end. I don’t think what you wrote is right.
    thanks

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      I think you might have misunderstood what I wrote, or I didn’t make myself clear.

      That statement was in relation to the hadith I mentioned about the man who was making dua to Allah but he was wearing haraam clothes and had eaten haraam food. The man who made this dua was in sincere need, but Allah did not answer his dua because he was involved in haraam things.

      My point was that simply wanting something is not enough to guarantee and an answer from Allah. We should do good if we expect good from Allah. If we’re doing evil, we are wrong to expect Allah to answer our prayers, just because we are in need.

      I’m don’t see anything wrong in this statement.

      • Wish to keep my concerns personal says:

        Also it is possible Sara your understanding of Islam is a bit weak, you don’t make Islam understandable from your perspective, you wrap your perspective around Islam..I’m not trying to offend you however it is very clear from your statement you didn’t understand what the Brother was referring to and this is coming from someone who has seen everything in this world and it’s harsh realities so please take it from me.

        Brother my question to you is, what if that Dua is more so asking Asking Allah to guide you back to the right path is it still wrong then? I’m very concerned about my life as well because I grew up back home moved to the states with my family when i was in 4th grade=11 years old, although I had picked up some things about Islam, apparently I didn’t have the proper understanding of Islam so it seems, perhaps religiously some what neglected as well as socially neglected I have so what it seems like now “paralysis by analysis” meaning over analyzing and thinking too much….as I am now 23 years old, although I saw people going to the masjid, and people making me go to the masjid, I don’t think I ever got the proper religious education in order to carry out the proper deen. So that being said I was always a quiet person keepin everything to myself, I fear there may be psychological powers involved in my life that are preventing me from properly staying on the right path. Alhamdullilah I am thankful that I was born a Muslim and I could never think other wise about this life, La Illaha Illalaho Muhamadurasullalah. I had an unfortunate thing happen to me as a child and although I think I am ok, lately I have been thinking more and more about it because I am worried about my faith, I just want to understand how to get passed this thought so that I may properly practice my faith. If you wish to know specifically what I experience in my childhood please email me so asking about it and I will respond to you shortly which will also let me know that you or any brothering willing to help me. I would be very embarassed to speak about such things hear but know that I am ok with talking about it on a more personal level.

        Jazaklahu khairan.

        • Abu Ibrahim says:

          Asking Allah for guidance is absolutely essential. We do it all the time whenever we recite Surah Al-Fatihah.

          Ihdinas Siratal Mustaqim: Guide us to the straight path.

          By all means, please do ask Allah for guidance. Even Prophet Muhammad asked Allah for guidance in this dua:

          “Oh flipper of hearts, settle my heart upon Your religion.”

  23. Soniya says:

    As-Sallaamu Alaikum,
    As-Sallaamu Alaikum,

    I have just stumbled upon your blog after searching for a dua i could read for lost items, I can see there hasnt been any comments since oct so i hope you do see this. Most of your questions seem to be based on love but mine is a different matter.

    Today i lost my mobile phone, it is very expensive but apart from that it is my lifeline- i have all my emails, appointments, numbers pictures, bank pins everything stored on it. I know exactly where i lost it- It dropped out of my lap after getting out of my dads car at the train station as i was on my way to university.

    I was wondering if it would be possible to pray and ask for the phone to be found as to be honest after the initial panic and praying in my heart i have a strong feeling that it will be found or handed in at the reception tomorrow. Is this a false belife or would you reckon this is a indicator from allah swt?

    Im sorry my problem seems to be very small compared to others and i know im doing it for a worldly posession but the value of yhis item to me is very big.

    JazakAllah

  24. maryam says:

    Aslam o alykum..

    MashaALLah it was beautiful and even though i knew most it but i red it all and it was like a reminder..
    I hope Allah swt gives u more and more knowledge ..

    JazakAllah..

  25. Shanaz says:

    Perhaps it’s very straight forward to write such blog when you haven’t experienced real pain.
    My husband and I cannot have childeren – is that our fault? My husband fights crime and I save people’s life’s, most of the time for free – are we still that bad? We give any thing we can to help other people. There is no medical possibility for us to have a child. I am still looking for answers but no one can give me one. I know about all of the surah’s in the Quran regarding infertility but it still does not answer my question. Why us?

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Thank you for commenting.

      Despite the title for this article, I don’t mean that these are the ONLY reasons your duas are not answered. Sometimes a person’s dua is not answered for something much deeper and more complex.

      I do appreciate the pain you and your husband have experienced. I’m certain it is not an easy thing to go through. But through this pain, Allah gives us opportunity.

      You have the chance to do things that many other Muslims cannot do. If you cannot have you own children, perhaps you can take in a needy child that could use a home. Most Muslims do not have the income or the ability to do that.

      Allah knows best. If He has put this trial on you, then He did so for a reason. Your job is to make the best of it and strive to please Him regardless of the difficulty.

  26. wafa says:

    Aslamualikum….m a 15 year old teenage gal..i do pray regulry n I do fast.d onli major sin I hv commitd z dt I got involvd in arelshnship.i ws seroius abt dt guy bt he wsnt.nw he has broken up wid me n went bak to his ex…i wud lyk to knw dt If I ask Allah to gt him bak as, my husband vl it b a bad thing?cox I hv no other option :’(

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      The most important thing is to repent to Allah for your sin.

      Otherwise, yes of course you can make dua to Allah to marry this boy. In fact, since you two already have a relationship, it’s probably best that you do go on and marry each other.

      But you must stop committing the sin. Put your trust in Allah and be patient.

  27. Hamzah says:

    Salaam,
    My dilemma is I did like a girl very much indeed and made dua to Allah to bring her closer to me but I realised what I was doing was in fact wrong I wanted to ask if it is ok for me to make dua to Allah so that I can get married to her in the future inshallah

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      It’s okay to make dua to Allah for anything that is halaal and permissible. If this young lady is permissible for you, then it’s okay to make dua to marry her.

      But just be patient and don’t lose your head if things don’t turn out the way you want them to. Allah may not allow you to marry her because He may know that it is not a good thing. In the end, it’s best to put your trust in Allah.

  28. Zehra Razvi says:

    Assalam Alaikum. I happened to stumble upon this page by accident and noticed how great you are with answering such questions. My problem is that I feel in love with this boy 4 years ago without even realizing it. Mutual family used to talk about him and I would just ignore it but one day I saw him and it was it. He lives in another state and I found him on fb but he got angry at me for bothering him and told me to never annoy him again. I had never met him either, just heard of him. After that until last year I forgot about him and went on with my life and even thought about forgetting him and maybe get married to someone else in the future. I am 19 and he is 22. But last year when I was about to think about a rishta I got, all of a sudden out of nowhere I found out he was coming to my hometown with his father. My family knew his dad a little and we went to meet him, I couldn’t believe it! It was like Allah had given me a sign but I did go to meet and no one but us two knew about the altercation between us and we sat across each other in a room with our parents for like 1/2 hour and did not say a word to each other, it just hurt to see him so close yet so far. I kind of forgot about him but after seeing him all of a sudden I got thinking maybe Allah wants this, but he didn’t even care. A few months ago I found out he got engaged to his first cousin and ever since I have been heartbroken! It’s not like I want them to break up, but I loved wayy before he was engaged. Now I’m notsure what to do? I want to ask Allah to make him fall in love with me but think it’s wrong and won’t happen and then I think I don’t know and Allah is capable of anything but I also think that Allah has not told us to live in this sort of fantasy world. I am so confused, what should I do?? One thing I do know for sure is that no matter now how much anyone tells me anything, I am never gonna get married to anyone else. I can’t think of loving and including in my life anyone but him. True love is forever, no matter what happens.

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      Whoa, whoa, whoa…slow down. Don’t swear of marriage. That is part of our faith and has several benefits.

      You’re suffering what’s commonly known as a broken heart. It happens to all of us at some time. It hurts. It sucks. But it will eventually pass.

      Be careful about trying to guess at what “Allah wants.” Many people (myself included) think that when things are going our way, or things look like they’re going in a certain way, that Allah wants something.

      But the truth is, no one truly knows what Allah wants except for what He has explicitly declared in the Quran and through His Messenger.

      Allah wants us to be faithful and patient and to put our trust in Him. He wants us to obey Him and His Messenger (pbuh) and He wants us to worship Him.

      If you ask me, chances are this boy you fell in love with was a test or perhaps it was a trick from Shaytan to lead you off the path of Islam. Perhaps Shaytan whispered things in your heart to make you doubt Allah and wonder about certain things.

      I have no idea how you look, but I’m pretty sure you’re a lovely young woman. If this boy does not marry you, then know for sure that it was not meant for you and that there is good in this event. Perhaps Allah has something better for you. Perhaps there was something evil about this boy that you do not know about. Perhaps there’s a better husband down the road somewhere.

      Here’s what you should do: Be patient and accept Allah’s decree. Put your trust in Him and ask Him to relieve your heart of the pain you’re feeling.

  29. tabasum says:

    askm
    i am now 28 years female. i am still unmarried i do dua to allah to get good guy and get mary soon. allah is not answering my prayers, and i have trust in allah that soon he will do some miracle in my life,and showr his bleesing on me. but people use to say i am already now 28 years old, still uot marrid.and yhey hurt me with lot of things which i cannot tell you, but still i have trust in allah.but now a days i am losing my patience.pleeez help me brother

    allah hafiz

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      Allah says in His book:

      “Oh you who believe, let not a people insult another people, perhaps they may be better than the former. Nor let women insult other women, perhaps they may be better than the former.” Chapter 49, verse 11.

      These people who mock and insult you are only earning sin on themselves and perhaps Allah will give you rewards for being patient and enduring their taunts.

      Continue to make dua to Allah for a good husband. What do you think is stopping you from finding a husband? Perhaps you may want to consider marrying an older man (not too much older, but within 10 years) or even marrying outside your ethnic group (but still a Muslim).

  30. bushra says:

    asalamualikum brother

    please can u give me a dua tht will help me get 1st place….for the past years i used to get top position but this year i seem to fall behind becaz of english…please help me in a effective dua tht allah will listen to
    should i ask duas in the 3rd part of night?…ive heard tht time its effective. thank u very much may god bless us all with jannah inshalaah

    waalaikumsallam

  31. bushra says:

    can u please reply on my email adreess if u dont mind

    jazakalaah

  32. Abbas says:

    As-Sallaamu Alaikum,
    Subhanallah very good site found many answers/shukran please reply me in my e-mail.
    I am Bangladeshi Muslim,I live in U.A.E

    I have question that a long time ago when i was in 2nd or 3rd or 4th grade i stole few things like accesories
    Last year i stole few library books from my school wht should i do?if i return one like at the same time im gone!they call me stealer
    so mayb theres one way go one night after ishaa and put those books in a bag and drop infront of the door?
    will Allah forgive me with or without returning the book?
    And the other thing is that I pray regularly 5 times/….
    tht few days ago i got final marks read many duas like this one ‘YA BADIUS SAMAWATEE WAL ARZ’ i need to to get jus 60 to pass in eng in gr 10S but i got 53 my dream wasnt granted i still got 2 terms to get promoted to 11S wht if Allah doesnt grant my wish ill fail and my parents will kick me out of the house for real :( Allah didnt grant my wish i jus needed jus a simple 60 from Allah Oh Allah u need to help me promte to 11S my great worry
    Will Allah grant me to 11S?Not working
    Thank you

  33. Dara says:

    Assalamualaikum.

    Few years ago, I met a man, whom I fell for at the first sight. He came from a good family, in which her mother and father are good muslims. I am now seventeen years old, and I cannot deny that previously when I like a boy, I oftentimes caught myself fantasizing about things Allah condemns. But, with this man, I find myself being a better person, although I have not known for such a long time. I feel Allah in my love for him. And it’s not something I made up, for once in my life, I feel it.

    But we have not met for some years, an
    d I find myself praying for him to have a good life regularly. I am too scared to ask Allah for him to be my boyfriend, because I know it’s against Allah’s will. So I just pray that someday I will meet him again, and we will have a good talk, and I will find myself having a good friendship with him. But although I have wait for some years, I still have not got the chance to meet him. But what makes me curious is how coincidences have been happening so synchronically. For one example, I was taming one of Southeast Asia’s highest mountain, when I found out that he was only 500 metres below me, but yet we did not meet, and any other coincidences that keep making me feeling as if Allah wants us to bound together, someday, somehow, although lately I have been praying for Allah to make me forget about him if we are not destined together.

    I know it’s Allah’s secret, but I am needing help for me to understand what could be behind all these coincidences that seem too synchronized to be coincidences. My heart says it’s fate, but I do not want to be over confidence about it.

    Thank you, may Allah be with you.

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam Dara,

      Thank you for sharing.

      I would advise you not to ask Allah to make this man your boyfriend. That sort of relationship is forbidden.

      But if you think he would make a good husband, and he is halaal (he is Muslim and not a close relative) then you can make dua to Allah for him to marry you. Just be patient and know that Allah is the best of planners.

      Sometime what may seem like coincidences are just trials from Allah. It is up to you to keep a level head when these things happen and not allow your emotions subjugate your faith.

  34. shaysta says:

    Asslaam alaiqum.alhumdulillah brother that you have posted this information. I am in alot of depression and i neef sincere advice. I know that boyfriends and girlfriends are haraam in islam. However i have been with this guy for 5 years mashallah and just recentlymy past mistakes have broken us up. I have been praying to Allah swt for a couple of months now i read salaat, quran n mke dua n read tasbi asking for forgiveness snd acceptance of my duas. i make dua that he comes back to me and that we get married very soon. Is this acceptable to ask Allah miah. Because i really want to get married to this guy i love him and he loves me, he says he wants to be with me but my mistakr is stopping him and he feels soo upst n doesnt know if he can get over it. Please help me , what is the best dua to make to Allah to ask him to get me married to him and what is the best way of making the dua. Also what dua can i make for him and what dua can i tel him to read. Please help me brother i am so depressed but i still keep trust thati will have him one day. Inshallah i hope to hear from u very soon. Jazakallah

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      In short, yes it’s acceptable to ask Allah to marry any man who is halaal for you to marry (that is, he’s Muslim and he’s not a close relative). It is also important that you repent to Allah for your previous sins and ask for His forgiveness.

    • sarah says:

      your story sounds alot like mine :(

  35. Saira says:

    Asalam u Alaikum!
    please can u tell me any duas for depression and fearness?
    i have done few mistakes on which i really felt guilt and which are now creating a trouble for me in my near future. i sent my pix to a boy ( bt those pix were of jst my face and it was even covered with a scarf) i sent him 2 pix but then i felt that i have done a very bad thing. he was an unknown boy he said show me your pic and i;” tel u who am i and i was trapped and i sent him my 2 pix in hijaab. and i wsh that i would have stopped my self from doing that and now that boy is blackmailing me that he’ll show my pix to every 1 that i showed him i dont talk to him and i even asked for forgivness from ALLAH many times please tell me any dua that will protect me from the harms that boy can give me.
    JAZAKALLAH U KHAIR!

  36. Asra says:

    Assalamoalaikum,
    I read this article and I found it really helpful and informative, I just have a question to ask here, it is that can we pray to Allah for getting married to someone you like/fancy or will that be asking Allah for something evil?

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum SAlaam,

      Yes, you can make dua to marry a specific person, so long as that person is halaal for you (that is, he’s Muslim and not a close relative).

      Just be patient with whatever Allah gives you because it may not be what you expect.

  37. MissModerate says:

    Assalamu alaikum,
    i love someone a lot and i cannot imagine a life without him, is it bad for me to ask dua to bless us with a lawful marraige soon?

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      It is okay to ask Allah for anything so long as it is halaal. If this boy is halaal for you (he is Muslim and is not a close relative) then yes, you can make dua to marry him.

  38. Lama says:

    Excuse me, if I may disagree with you on the fourth claus: “YOU DON’T THINK YOU’RE GONNA GET IT.”
    In my personal opinion, people read Duaas because they know that when they do, Allaah will grant them their wish. So basically and in simpler words, no, I don’t think that I am going to get what I have hoped to, except if I ask from Almighty Allaah to.

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      You have the right to disagree with me, and you might even be correct.

      But judging from the comments on this page about duas and the many emails I get, there are many Muslims who make dua and are not sure if they should even be asking Allah for that thing. They lack confidence that Allah will give it to them. Sometimes, they’re not even sure if He CAN give it to them.

      And that point was more about the advice from Prophet Muhammd (pbuh) that we shouldn’t say “Inshallah” in our duas. We should make them with confidence because Allah will do as He pleases.

  39. Sitara says:

    Assalamu Aliykum

    Dear brother

    My mother wants to buy this house .she saw it it is very expensive but can’t afford to buy this house .we really need to buy a house because I have some relatives that want to come an stay but I have no space and my mothers sister comes with her children to please I need Allah to help me . can you give me a surah or a dua to read ?

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      It sounds like you’re asking for a dua for more money or a higher income in order to get this house.

      I once asked my teacher about how to increase my income and he advised me to make Tahajjud prayers (Qiyamul Layl). This is the time when Allah answers the duas very readily.

      So try to limit your bad deeds, seek Allah’s mercy and forgiveness, and strive to establish the night prayers on a regular basis.

      And I’ve heard that if you recite this dua every morning and night, Allah will relieve your financial difficulties.

      And Allah knows best.

  40. Ayesha says:

    Ayesha here
    My hubby nd I both really like my brother inlaw ( hubby’s elder brother) nd his wife….we were really in good eaking terms with them….I ,being the ypunger one, always respected my sis inlaw …my hubby, being the younger brother, always phoned the elder brother arranging to meet up…recently another relative of ours said some thing bad and wrong abt us to tht very brother, which was all lies…..he got angry my hubby kept calling his bro but no reaponse at all…i kept calling my sis inlaw but no renspose..they didnt gave us a single chance to clarify ourselves…its been 6 months like this, recently by chance , i met tht sis in law for few minutes, she disnt let me speak nd said tht they hv decided to be in one corner md leave the relationship..saying this ,she immediately went away…i was heartbroken ..nd in a fit of rage, i gave them bad dua nd cursed them ..i miss them alot nd whenever i think abt them, no matter how hard i try, i cant stop myself from repeating the same curse…now im scared tht wt of the cirse os backfired on me…then again i think tht they r the ones who did bad by cutting off from thier own flesh nd blood, nd we tried our best to maintain the relationship..plz help

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      I would suggest you try to get a neutral third party to try to bring you guys together and patch things up. Perhaps their father or mother or a respected elder like an uncle.

      It is horrible for Muslims to break family ties especially over petty things like this. Please, Sister Ayesha, I encourage you to advise your husband and his family to work together and get things right between each other.

  41. Adam says:

    Salam u alaykum,

    This was a nice article to read. I am in a very difficult situation myself as I have been searching for a job for a full year without luck. There is one concern I have after reading this though. It is said that Allah (SWT) has already written what rizk a person will or will not get. The thing that bothers me is, how can I make duaa with confidence if I always have the thought that maybe Allah has not pre-ordained that I will get a job and that my duaa will not change this ? This is always in the back of my mind when I make duaa. Similarly, what if Allah (SWT) wants to not grant me a job to test me even if the job will be beneficial for me ? This is also something that comes to mind that really makes it difficult to make duaa with the knowledge that Allah (SWT) will help me. Other then this, I have absolutely no doubt that ultimately, he has absolute power over all things.

  42. Maryam says:

    Salam alaykum,

    Barak Allah fikum for this, alhamduli Llah it ‘s so interesting may Allah reward you for all the work you do to teach us our beautiful religion by the grace of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta’ala.

    Greetings from a french sister,
    Salam alaykum.

  43. kholchooma brgum says:

    Asalam walakum,wat i wnted 2 kno was y i’m i gettin treated differently 4rm my otha sister in laws.my mother in law makes up crap 4 no reason n so those my husband.thanks

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      You may have to give more info into your situation.

      It could be something that happened a long time ago, or it might just be your perception.

      I’d akso like to know why your husband treats you unfairly. That sounds very strange.

      Please send me an email to abu underscore ibrahim at islamiclearningmaterials dot com and give me some specifics.

      • kholchooma brgum says:

        I sent you an email please could you read it straight away and help me. I am trying to become a proper muslim insha allah n i know i can do it. I just need some help. Jazakallah

  44. Ummi Aziz says:

    Assalamualaikum, This link helped me believe more in Allah s.w.t. And I am grateful for realizing. I was born Muslim, but never really knew what to believe and what not. Alhamdullilah, I have been blessed with everything I have In life. Allah has opened my eyes to see deeply into Islam. I am a 17 yr old female, currently waiting for the results of my o levels exams. Reading this link has truly made me have faith in my dua’s towards Allah. Insyallah everything will be fine. I wish to read more from your blog, thank you! Waalaikumsalam.

  45. sarah says:

    asalam alaikum
    i have been in a relationship with a man since the age of 15 making it 5 years now. this man says we can no longer marry although we are still in contact and he says he loves me. i pray to allah that we can marry and become halal husband and wife and do things the right way. my intentions are good towards him and i don’t want to do anything that will make allah unhappy with me. do you think allah would listen to my duaa?

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam Sister Sarah,

      Allah definitely hears your dua. But only He knows if He will answer it in the way you expect.

      Allah says:

      When My slave asks you about Me, verily I am near. I answer the prayer of the caller when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me and believe in Me so they may be righteous.
      Chapter 2, verse 186.

      This verse shows that Allah hears all prayers and He will respond to those who believe and obey Allah and His Messenger (pbuh). So you have to do your part by being a good Muslim and having unconditional faith.

      At the same time, you also have to trust Allah. He knows what is good for you even better than you do. You may want something that is bad and may dislike something that is good. So Allah may not give you something that you really want because He knows it may do you more harm than good.

      So believe in Allah, obey Him, and be patient with whatever He gives you. You should also repent for your sins and strive never to do them again.

  46. kholchooma brgum says:

    Thank you for answering my question via email.jazak allah. I know i ask to many questions but please could i just say, my daughter goes school and she comes back at magrib. Wat i wanted to know was if i read magrib about 10 mins later will that be ok? Another thing i tell and tell my husband to read namaz but he doesnt what should i do? Jazak allah

  47. sanaaa says:

    salaamualaikum abu.

    i would like to get a specific person as my spouse.
    we have never met. but i know him (nt as much as ALLAH does).
    but i have a feeling and a confident that he “can” be the right one for me.
    but again he is a big person. hardly have time.
    when i said my view to people , they were like its impossible—n i have no right to think of it.

    but–i believe in allah.
    and i have that feeling that he can fullfil my this wish.
    i dont know is it my need or helplessness that makes me feel this.

    but i’m confident.

    is it right ??? or am i wrong somewhere ???

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam Sanaa,

      It sounds like you want to marry a person that you don’t know and who doesn’t know you. And also it seems, from your question, that this person is an important or well-known figure.

      To simply answer your question, you can make dua to marry anyone who is permissible for you to marry. So if this person is a Muslim and is not a close relative, you can make dua to marry him.

      But I’m not sure if this is a wise desire to have.

      If this person doesn’t know you, and you don’t really know him, how do you know your personalities are compatible? How do you know what kind of person he really is?

      I believe you should focus your energies on something more reasonable.

      Also, you may make dua for something, but Allah knows best if that thing is good for you. You might be praying to marry this person while Allah sends another good person your way.

      While it may be permissible to make dua to marry him, it may not be the wisest thing to do.

  48. tahera says:

    Thank you for a beautiful article. A muslima who is very close to me is diagnosed with cancer in the lungs. She is very pious, and is from a good family. I am devastated as she is like a sister to me. What dua can I make for her.

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      As-Salaamu Alaikum Tahera,

      It is always best to use duas from the Quran or from the authentic hadiths of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). Here is one dua for healing from Sahih Bukhari.

      However, while it is important to say the dua, it is also important to believe and be sincere with what you’re saying. So I encourage you to learn the meaning of the dua and understand it well.

      Also, you can make dua in any language, so long as you are sincere and you put your trust in Allah. Your sincerity and trust in Allah is more important than the words itself.

      And Allah knows best. May He make it easy for you and the sister.

  49. sanaaa says:

    thankyouso much bro. for answering and i well appreciate it.

    yes, bro as u say he can be a well-known personality.
    and yes what if he not so great!

    but allah– he is “al -qadir” the powerful.
    if i’m sincere in my dua – my prayer wont he fullfil it ?? –yes i beleive he can–and i trust him – for a simple reason that when the entire world says that its impossible , i still feel that “he is for me” !!! –inshallah –allah can make it possible.

    well, we believe there is nothing impossible for him. he can change anything.
    he is the one who writes our life.

    this all might sound like a fantacy. infact it can be. but ALLAH is our creator –he knows our feeling –our desire–everything—aint he the one who creates all this feelings ???—so for sure he is well aware about it.

    i pray—n make a dua in my own words—is there any special dua that i can make, plz lemme know.

  50. alisha says:

    salam
    GOD bless u ,today i really needed it.
    keep it up
    jazak ALLAH

  51. sadaf says:

    assalam aalaikum mera masla yeh hai ki meri shadi ek aise ladhke se fixed kar di gayi hai jo mujheme bahut restriction lagata hai bahut gande alfaz me baat bhi karta hai maine apne ghar pe bhi yeh baat batayi par oh log meri nai sun rahe hai aap koi aisi wazifa ya namaz de jisse meri shadi us ladhke se nai ho

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam.

      If anyone can translate this, it would be greatly appreciated.

      • sanaaa says:

        it seems that this sister’s marriage has been fixed with a “person” who has made lots of restrictions on her. he even talks to her in a bad manner. she had reported this matter to her parents. but they aren’t concerned . please suggest some dua’s so that she wont get married to this “person”.

        • sadaf says:

          assalam aalaikum ji bilkul aapne sahi samjha mujhe us ladhke se shadi nai karni main 3 saal se uski battamizi bardash kar rahi hun par ab mujhse bardash nai hota mujhe plz koi bhi namaz wazifa ya dua dijiye jisse meri shadi is ladhke se na ho maine bahut koshish ki par yeh rishta khatam hi nai kai baar baat ban bhi jaati hai par phir woh jhut boljar sab thik kar dete hai phir kuch din baad waise hi battanizi karte hai allah k liye meri madad kariye main bahut pareshan hun

  52. abdurahman says:

    you forgot the most improtant one. the prophet (saw) was with his companions when they came upon a man on a journey. his clothes baggy, old and his camel ran away and ran out of food supply. the man then dropped to the floor and raised his hands and said “ya-rabi ya-rabi”. the prophet (saw) speaking of this said if only this man had been eating right allah had answered his call. So making sure you eat the right food is more important than any you have have mentioned. As for he (saw) told us to straighten our food and allah will accept your call.

  53. Ghalia says:

    Asalamualaikum,plz i have a question to ask,u said “Allah is good and He only likes that which is good. So if you’re good, then He will give you good” I agree with the first part but my question is when u wrote, if ur good he will give u good.
    Their are women who abuse their children,recently here in jeddah a new born baby was found in a dumpster his arm was chewed by rats,he died.I know other cases of women who put their babies in microwave for few mins just to stop the baby from crying or putting the baby in a freezer,the abuse stories can go on and on.Plz tell me one thing,these women concieved,carried the baby for nine months n gave birth than tortured their own children.R they good.cos Allah swt blessed them with a baby?
    i know other women like myself who suffer n cry everyday facing rude remarks from friends,husband and in laws because she has no kids.Am i a bad person cos i don’t have a kid?i dream to b a mother and does that mean i’m a bad person thats why Allah swt hasn’t given me a child.
    After all the bad remarks i worked hard because i believe Allah swt helps those who help themselves,i did ivf and was pregnant with triplets,after 3 months i had a miscarriage,i’m so depressed and sad to the last limit on losing my three babies.But i know i have three angels in jannah inshallah.
    So am i a bad person for all this pain and sadness to befall on me?plz answer me.
    Thank u.

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      Sometimes Allah decrees tragic things to happen to us. Sometimes good people get bad things and bad people get good things.

      But Allah is fair and just. Where He may give you tragedy in one area, He has also blessed you in another. Look to the good He had given you and praise Him for that.

      Even when you do experience some sort of evil event, be patient with it and look for the good within it. As Allah says, verily with every hardship comes ease.

    • sadaf says:

      assalam aalaikum aaap koi special dua kyun nai padhti baby k liye agar aapki ijazat ho to kya main aapko aise kuch dua forward karun allah hafiz

  54. Hafeezah says:

    my friend who’s a Muslim loves a guy ..and he’s left her .. Cos he feels the girl’s dad won’t accept him and it’ll create problems . she loved him at the age when she never knew talking to a boy itself is wrong . now her daily prayers are that , that the boy should come back to her and her dad should accept that boy as she can’t marry any other man .. because she’s even promised on Quran to that guy before . she read istikhara namaz and Everythin . will this dua of hers get fulfilled ? because for her , her parents happiness matter a lot

  55. Salah says:

    Sallam aleikum i have a kind a difficult question. I have been dated a Girl for 10 months, i know its haram. But in the last two month of the relationship Things Went wrong. I did awfull Things against her and speak dirty to her. The Girl isnt relgius, but have a wish to be. I Said to her if you work ón being i will see, and marry you. Then We broke up, and i feel sadness and get broken hearted. Then i realize i can expect something from a person, if i aint what i expect from others. This has make me regret and seek forgivness from her and her family and Allah for what i have did against her. It have make me a Better human being inshallah. I have start praying, and make good deeds May Allah accept. In my dua i wish that she will come back, and i will marry her Because i love her but not date her Like before Because its haram. I want it in a Islamic Way inshallah so Allah will bless. Is there any kind of dua or something i can make beside pray and make dua for it.? Is there a specifik salah where you can ask for it? Like fajr, where Allah is nearest us? It have been 13 days ago. Sorry for my poor english. I hope you understand.

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      If you love this girl, and she is Muslim, then why don’t you just marry her? If she is not a religious person, then just make dua to Allah in your own language for her to be guided.

      It is better for you to marry a pious person, but if your heart is really anchored to this girl, just go on and marry her and teach her as you go along.

      And Allah is the source of strength.

      • Salah says:

        Thank you for your answer, but its a triggy situation now. She dont want me anymore but still have feelings for me. And she comes from another country. I make dua everyday, and she has text and called me but just to point my mistakes. We had No contact in 2-3 weeks now. But suddenly she called me and then for 2 days ago text me. Her father Speaks for democratic, and her mother is not religius either. I dont know if this could be a good idea. They both says thet are muslim. But she have a amazing heart. She is taking about that i was too much over her, and that woman a equal man. Is she right that woman is equal man in islam?

        • abdurahman says:

          asalamu’alaykum brother,
          when you say she dont want you and she has feelings for you is not what you think. your probably too much for her right now and she is not ready. she still loves you dearly and is just not ready to take it ferther. her parents are not very religious and wont really the concept islam has to say for asituation like this. so take it lightely and keep making dua. to be honest you do not have the aliance to text her or call her or talk to her or even make physical contact with her before marriage. you must always have a company on either sides. go forward and propose to her and marry and guide her as you go along.
          P.S: women are equall to men in islam and have the same rights as men.

  56. amna says:

    Salaam.

    Firstly I would like to say that you are doing a brilliant job. I am 22 years old and I am from the UK. I saw this boy in University and I started to like him. I saw him a few times over the year and I developed a very strong crush on him. So much so that all I could do was think about him. My smaller sister made a fake fb account for whatever reason and whilst I was on that I found this boy. I added him and started to talking him and I ended up revealing who I was and that I liked him. We even met briefly and had a small chat. We continued to talk and he then gave me his number and we were texting all the time. He flirted alot and although I was hesitant initially, I gave in. He revealed that he liked someone else and was at the moment in pain as she did not like him. I was also heartbroken but we continued to talk. It was constant but then I realised that my like was getting alot stronger and he was to some extent playing with my feelings. We argued and did not speak for a long time. In this time he went to Pakistan and found someone he liked and was engaged. He used to tell me everything but did not tell me this one thing. This really really hurt me from the inside. He used to ask me questions and flirt making me feel more attracted to him. I told him that we had to stop talking. I still really like him, maybe even love him and this is making it difficult for me to think straight, eat, drink, sleep etc.

    I always repent for what I have done but I know that my liking for him was pure and deep down despite what he did I think that he is a good person, he is a haafiz and I wish him the best. Is what I have done really bad?

    My parents are currently looking to get me married and have some good people in mind but this thing I have done is eating away at me all the time. What do I do?

    Jazakallah

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      Jazakalah Khair for the compliments.

      Well, first just take it easy. You had a crush. Those things happen. It led to a little texting and Facebooking and some hurt feelings but not much more than that.

      It doesn’t even seem like the two of you shook hands (which by the way is wrong).

      So you should make Tawbah and repent to Allah for there was some wrong. But don’t drown in your guilt. Hopefully you’ve learned your lesson and can see the hurt and pain that these little transgressions can cause.

      You have to move forward and focus on your life now. It may take some time to get over the Flirty Hafiz but in time, Inshallah, you will.

      That little game he played on you is one both men and women play on each other. Some call it “playing hard to get.” It basically entails getting close enough to a person to create a sense of familiarity, but staying just far enough out of reach to also create desire and longing.

      It’s law # 3 in the 48 Laws of Power.

      • hery says:

        asSallam aleikum

        brothers and sisters i have a question my dream is to play football when i grow up.i pray five times a day and fast and to everything i van to please allah.i from the uk there i as having the time of my life enjoying everythinf then my parrents sent me to kenya and now i am here living a dreadfull life. i am not playing football and my life seems useless i want to go back to england but my parrents refuse not understanding i have only one chance that is coming up for a local school team.i am one of the best but people look down on me.i pray daily but things seem not to change what should i do brothers and sisters.

        • Abu Ibrahim says:

          Wa Alaikum Salaam,

          You should continue praying to Allah for what you want. But you must understand that Allah knows what’s best for you. Even if you don’t like your current condition, there is wisdom behind it.

  57. abdurahman says:

    asw. im a 18 year old and i go to sixth form. it is a segregated school and the boys and girls are seperated.
    recently both genders of year 13 went to another school and we were doin a project. the groups were mixed both schools and both sex. there is a girl who is 3 months younger than me and is in my group. she rarely speakes to me and blushes when i speak to her. ive spoken to her friends a lot of times. during the group work i see her checking me out in the corner of my eye. i hear her say my name in some conversations. she is a really lovely and cute looking girl. other boys including some of my friend have a crush on her. but she seems to have a crush on me. i guess i like her too (very lovely). she has a open heart and i never heard her speak negative of anyone. what should i do make a move or propose? do you think she really likes me and shes a muslimah? is it the right time?

  58. Aliya says:

    AOA, This is going to be extremely long but i need help desparately. Please help me out

    Myy problem is my family. My dad’s side of the family i cannot bear to explain to you how much i hate them from the bottom of my heart. I have literally wished death upon my grandma (dad’s mom) a thousand times repeatedly. I hate her so much for all the grief and pain she has kept my mom going through. I’m only 16 and i know these are some harsh words i’m saying and i really shouldn’t be and i have likely committed a sin by doing this. However, i don’t feel guilty because i really do hate her. She is impolite, disgusting, disrespectful, she backbites and talks craaap consistently behind our backs and everything about her is plain ugly. No manners, nothing. My mom was married into a stupid, uneducated and retarded family long ago – my grandparents (mom’s side) made a huge mistake :/ They really did

    Anyways, so my dad’s side of the family had been totally against my mom since the beginning before i was even born, they wanted my dad to divorce my mom even after they had me and my brother stupid retards. But anyways, i just basically went to Pakistan with my mom, sister and brother. It had been 12 years since my mom and me went back. My grandfather even died and his last wish was to see me, which he couldn’t, because of this stupid family who kept my mom from visiting. AFTER 12 DARN YEARS, we finally went, my grandfather died about a year ago. But basically i finally got to meet everyone, my grandmother, aunts, uncles, cousins, and they were all so polite, and so educated, very mannered and FUN! I had soo much fun in Pakistan, more than i’ve ever had in my entire life. i laughed so much, and everyone was so loving, caring and respectful – it was an amazing month, just a very short visit though because of school and everything.

    So anyways, when i came back, i saw such a difference in my moms family and dad’s. And i feel unwanted here, my mom doesn’t like it here my siblings don’t and SURE AS HELL DON’T. i hate every single person in my dad’s family and sometimes i start to hate him because he doesn’t stand up for us like he should. He gets so trapped by his mother and demented sisters. They all hate us and are extremely jelous. I don’t want to live in this family anymore, my grandma lives with us and i hate her soooo much. She’s always talking to her daughters about us and its always fake, crap or its about us being this and that and ughhhhhhh IT IS SO FRUSTRATING

    Also, im having exams right now. And it makes it so hard for me to study and i don’t know what to do. I can’t stop crying, wishing i was in Pakistan where people loved us, and we had fun, nothing ever went on in my mom’s side of the family compared to what i see here in my stupid dad’s side.

    Anyways, i have sworn multiple times at my grandma ( she doesn’t here me ofcourse) because im sick of her behaviours. She’s always causing fights, and if you spent a day in my family you’d understand the hell that my mom went through when she was newly married i feel so bad. I want my grandma and everyone to pay, i want revenge and i want them to die a terrible painful death. I know its wrong, but what do i do? Is it really that horrible to say this? Also, my grandma prays namaz, but, will her namaz really be accepted if she is a bad horrible person? I hope it isn’t
    I just really need some prayers and duas too that i can say to be protected and happy. Im so depressed and life is becoming so hard for me. I want to live in pakistan with good people, happy kind people, not with these demons -.-

    Anything i can do? Also, i don’t pray namaz, i try and then i don’t. I want to but i can’t i keep forgetting and its hard, i feel like i won’t be able to do it. Are there any duas that can pull me closer to my faith/religion, keep my happy not depressed and give me success.
    I need to feel better. I am emotionally exhausted by this cheap and crappy family.

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      As-Salaamu Alaikum,

      Before doing anything, you should reflect on your own deeds. You mentioned that you are slacking a little in your prayers. You are responsible for your own self and you should immediately begin making your prayers on a regular basis. If you’re having a problem focusing in prayer, I’ve written a couple of articles that address this issue. But that is still not an excuse to miss the prayers.

      It just means you’ve got some work to do.

      For your grandmother, it seems like it all boils down to your father. He needs to get himself together and talk to his mother. He needs to realize that her actions and behavior is tearing his family apart and ruining his wife and dauther’s lives.

      All I can suggest to you at this time is to talk to your father and be honest with him. Ask him to tell his mother to stop saying bad things about and doing bad things to you and your mother.

      You must of course also make dua, ask Allah for help and guidance, and trust in Him to help you find a peaceful resolution to these issues.

      And Allah knows best.

  59. Mohammed Awais Khan says:

    asalaam i am a boy who is close to 15 i really live this girl and i make dua to Allah that may my love be true towards her and may she love me and her love is true towards me i have also asked Allah that with his taufeeq we get married and become good husband and wife and have good childre who follow islam i try my best to pray five times a day and want to know if this is okay to ask allah

  60. Assalamalaikum,
    I have a question. There is a woman who is my mom’s friend and she likes me for her son, she wants to make me her daughter in law and my mom, dad, and my brother, they all like her son for me. They want me to get married to her son and I wanna get married to him too but the only problem is that he doesn’t wants to get married to anyone until he is 40 coz he wants to focus on his career. he is 33 right now and I turned 25 today. This guy’s mom has been trying to convince him to get married since he was 22 and he is 33 now. He doesnt likes another girl because his mom doesnt has any issues if he has his own choice but he says that he doesnt wants to get married to anyone at all until he is 40. I dont know if he is still gonna agree or not even though his mom is trying to her best to make him agree to get married to me. Sometimes his mom also feels like someone has done magic on him. Can you please tell me any dua that I could recite and his mom or my mom could recite to make him agree to get married to me or atleast get engaged to me as soon as possible. Can you also tell me something to read for the cure of magic if there is any magic on him. Please reply back to me. Please help me. Take care. Allah hafiz.

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      You can ask Allah through dua in any language you choose. If you can get your feelings across in your native language, you should do that.

      I would not advise you to wait for this brother to turn 40 before marrying him. If he’s not ready to marry now, and he doesn’t appear ready to change his mind, you should move on and marry someone who’s more serious about life.

      Waiting 7 years is a waste of your time. Only Allah even knows if either one of you will live that long.

      As for magic, check out this post.

  61. ANUM ZAHID says:

    CAN YOU PLEASE TELL ME SOME DUA TO STOP SOMEONE FROM BLACKMAILING

  62. dunia says:

    Asalamalykum

    im in quite a situation,
    i have gotten engaged, accepted the proposal, and its been 4 months, however, i dont want to get married to this man for many reasons, and iv let my family and him know, however, they are telling me its too late.
    i have been praying to ALLAH to cut me out of this wedding before its too late. so my question is, does this anger ALLAH, since marriage is half our dean?

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      No it’s not really too late. But you should take into consideration the expenses and trouble your parents went through for your marriage.

      You haven’t given any specifics about why you don’t want to marry him. Is it just a lack of attraction? Or does he not practice Islam?

      Depending on what your reasons are, I would give you different advice. Perhaps being patient and trying to see his good is better for you. But it might still be better to follow your intuition and not marry him.

      Please provide more details and perhaps other readers can give you more advice, InshaAllah.

  63. bint e shahida says:

    please reply back to me, I have been waiting for your reply

  64. liyu says:

    assalamu aliykum…
    actually i want to knw 1 thing…
    i have cheated n 2 people… its not purposfully….
    cheating in da sence i loved 2 guys but my parents didnt allow for that… so because of my parents in order to make them happy i left only because of them…..
    now i know that i did mistake… i need dua for da mistake i hav done…
    do allah forgive me ?? :(

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      Just loving two men at the same time is not really sinful, especially if you weren’t married to either one of them.

      But if you had a relationship with them…that is sinful if you weren’t married to them.

      Repent to Allah and commit to never making these sins again. Allah is All Forgiving and the Most Merciful. But you have to stop the sin and stop what leads to the sin.

  65. Mohammed says:

    bismiIah,salam have this little problem that I understand that it might be silly to ask.. Since I was 12 I was 5’6 and now I’m 15 and still 5’6.. Allhamduallah for my life I’m really grateful for EVERYTHING i have but I really want to be tall like 6’2-6’5.. And NO it’s not to attract girls or anything like that,I have a dream to be in the nba and many other things like more respect and stuff..I have the health,opportunity and will to try to make it in the nba not the height :’( ..I pray 5 times a day and became a better muslim after I wanted to be tall because if I do the things allah tells me to do,inshallah he will help me.but some people tell me it’s haram to ask allah to make you taller because it changes who you are..but is it true? Will allah make me tall inshallah? By the way thank you for making this website it helped me become a better muslim

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikm Salaam Br. Mohammed,

      Well, you’re still young so you still may have some growing to do.

      As for making the NBA, there have been some notable short people who have become great NBA players. Mugsy Bogues, Damon Stoudamire, Avery Johnson, and Nate Robinson all come to mind. So if you have really good skills, and you’re committed and you never give up, you may still make the NBA. Furthermore, there are many other jobs and positions you can have in the NBA and professional basketball besides just being a player.

      Continue making dua to Allah and ask Him to give you what’s best. And yes, you can make dua to Allah for anything that isn’t haraam. So you can ask Allah to make you taller, but just be patient and satisfied with whatever He gives you. If you don’t make it to 6’5, don’t let that be a cause of concern or sadness.

  66. JAFFERI says:

    SLAM SIR I HAVE A QUESTION I ASKED ALLAH FOR SOMETHING MAKING DUAS AND MANATS BUT ALLAH NEVER GIVE ME THE THING I WANT I REALLY UPSET ITS NOT A BAD THING AND I NEVER DO BAD DEEDS THEN WHAT TO DO ALLAH ANSWERED ME

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      Well…we all do bad deeds.

      If you’re asking Allah for something good and you don’t see it coming to you, perhaps there’s something in it that’s not good. Perhaps Allah is protecting you from something unseen.

      And if He doesn’t give you what you want right away, then perhaps He will give you something else later on that you really want. Perhaps these unanswered duas will come back to you as safety from a bad accident or protection from some harm in your future.

      My point is you should continue making dua and asking Allah for what you want. Just be confident and patient with whatever He gives you.

  67. karimah says:

    As salaamu alaikum i owe money to a catologue, and feel that only me and allah should know how much i owe is that not right? my husband to be has asked me how much i owe and i did not tell him the correct price, only me and allah should know, is that classed as lying and will i get punished for it?

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      If you told him a falsehood, then yes that is a lie.

      He is not yet your husband so you don’t have to tell him anything as yet. But when you do get married, you do have to obey him in all that is good. So at that time it might be time to tell him the truth.

      But for now, just tell your future husband you don’t want to give him this information at this time. There’s no reason to lie.

  68. karimah says:

    as salaamu alaikum i always make dua to allah to make us get married will allah answer my duas now?
    karimah again

  69. nalim says:

    Salam, I am a 19 year old male and I like this girl and she likes me to we have liked each other for couple of years I am going umra this year finally inshallah and I want to marry her my mum has problems liking her because of past events but my mum not knowing she has recently changed and has turned to allah so I yet have not mentioned this matter to her I want to marry her as soon to prevent any temtation and do it the halal way. how do I mention this to my mum and when is the time right to do this what do I say I am very nervous and also how does istikhara marriage work ?? And is my duas more likley to get eccepted in umra ??

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      Your mother just wants what is best for you. She may have seen something bad in this girl and doesn’t want to see you get hurt in the future.

      But at the same time, you don’t need your mother’s permission to marry her. However, you should respect her opinion and seriously take her advise into consideration.

  70. aDAM says:

    Salam alaykum! well my wife left me and she went with my son and she told me that she do not love me anymore but me i still love her so much and i want to raise my son with her, so which surah or verse must i recite to get her back and Ask Allah for her to change her mind, please help brothers and sister please email me delroyb1@aol.com,

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      There’s more to this story so it’s hard to give you any solid advice. But from what little you’ve written, you don’t seem to have a very strong character, and Allah knows best.

      You should not have just let your wife walk out on you and take your son with her. I don’t mean to offend you (really, I don’t). But your wife may want a man who has a stronger character and who will stand up for his rights and she is confident can protect her.

      You don’t need any special duas. Just make sincere dua to Allah to give you what’s best.

      And Allah is the source of strength.

  71. ocean says:

    Assalamu Alaikum,
    I am currently a fourth year undergraduate students studying in a non-muslim country.I recently meet a Muslimah who is a friend of one of my friend and mashallah she is really practicing.After seeing her I knew I want to get married to this person.We didn’t talk much,neither we have any contacts nor there are chances of seeing her in future.Before,I had a six years relationship or I would say that I used to like this girl for so long.I have had a pretty bad experience regarding that time and at that point I thought I wouldn’t be able to want to like anyone else.I would also like to mention I wasn’t that practicing before but now because of some of my friends and with the enlightenment of Allah subhanutaala I am trying to be a practicing one.I always prayed to him that I would like to marry someone who would wake me up in Fajr for prayers.Because of my past,I ruined my studies and there were so many things that got messed up in my life.Now,at this point I am feeling inferior to even inquiry about her to my friend since mashallah she is a software engineer and working in a very reputed company.Whereas,I am also studying engineering and has a low gpa and didn’t graduate yet,let alone seeking a job.I got my heart broken before since I also wanted to marry that previous girl and still I am in a process of re-discovering myself.I seek forgiveness to Allah and want to settle down in my life.Tell me how should I seek for guidance from Allah subhanutaala and would really like to marry this girl who is a friend of my friend.Your advice would be highly appreciated.

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum SAlaam,

      The most important thing is that Allah guided you back to the straight path. That is something to be grateful for.

      As for this girl you like, you shouldn’t feel bad about yourself. She will sense your lack of confidence and no one wants to be with an man with no confidence.

      If you wait until you graduate to inquire about her, she may find someone else. If you ask her now, you’re not yet in a position to marry anyway so the most you can hope for is that she will wait for you.

      In my opinion, if you really like her, then go on and inquire about her. And if she is not interested, then leave it with Allah and continue trying to improve yourself and seek His pleasure and Mercy.

      Perhaps some of the other reader have more advice they can give you.

      And Allah knows best.

  72. diamond says:

    AslamuAlaikum
    Basically theres this guy i met 2 years ago online, after a year of talking he decided to meet me, so last year we met quite abit but nothing more then a hug happend, So his past is quite bad but its been 4 years Alhumdolillah his changed, he sounds nothing like the person he once was n im very sure on it because his always home or at work n always been in contact with me. Now its come to a point i always looked at it as marriage n he said we will think about it, his been to a babajee which said it wont last with any girl u be with. Now i dont know but i really like this person and cant imagine anyone else but him, i dont know why but i only want to see him in my future. His also got jinns in him and because of that his always in pain, they put alot of bad in his head there for now he goes its gd if we stop talking because he said he wants us both going to jannat but on one side i believe in baba jees but i believe in Allah swt more, if this person could make a big change and turn towards allah swt how can he be bad?I dont have anything more to say and now looking at all this i pray to Allah swt, please bring him to me in a good way, somehow with ur own way get our parents to meet and make this rishta happen in a good way. Im always praying for his goood and they say to get away from jinns u have to move away from all the bad and thats what he is doing so i cant force him to talk to me, but all the time im just praying for him, The other day i had a dream, i was infront of the Kaabah and all i prayed was for his health and for him to be with me, anyhow do u know what this dream could mean? ,Thinking about all this im confused what to do. Any help please?

    • Muttaqi says:

      Wa Alaikum SAlaam,

      I have no idea what Baba Jee is but it sounds bad. I’d suggest you both stay away from it.

      If he has jinn within him, you probably should consider someone else as a husband. You don’t want to live in the same house with that stuff. But there are also good Muslim exorcists who can help him with that problem.

      But I think it’s more likely that this guy just has some flaws. If he’s going out with other girls, you shouldn’t even consider him.

      Leave that Baba Jees stuff alone. Believe in Allah only.

      The Kaaba in a dream represents true righteousness. But there’s more to your dream that you haven’t mentioned, most likely.

      And Allah knows best.

    • sara says:

      Dont listen to these babajeez they’re no one to tell you your future. thats Asian beliefs, and the only reason why asian people belive in that is becuase there country was shared with hindus, and hindus tend to really believe in theses babajis and crap. try praying a salah called istikhara it might help give you the correct indication of whether you should or shouldn’t. about the guy i personally wouldn’t get involved with someone who has a jinn, then again i think its a case of some effect of may be black magic (on him) rather than a jinn, and i cant say 100% but its probably this babaji who has done the black magic (so the family keep going back to him and he gets money).

  73. Hooran says:

    Salam ,
    I belong to a good family Alhumdulillah ..educated and well settled,i was married in to a orthodox family,right from the inception of marriage day my husband is neither lovable nor affectionate towards me,before marriage what were the promises made by him turned to be fake and false,after marriage my husband’s family directly never harassed me but indirectly all the things which i cant share in a single mail,to the outside world hes so nice and caring man,but apart from his parents evil plans he doesnt know how to execute life in a truthful manner.He left me for two years without any information about his whereabouts,but he was in touch with his parents,when i enquired apart from abuse i dint recived anything else,he raises hands on me,but the outside world needs proof what hes done in four walls before leaving me,after two years im in a dilema.khula is what the society around is offering me,My life is spoiled by him ,khula becomes the punishment for my life,not for him,he wil get marry again ,hes ready to take me back again but wil provide basic things like food and shelter,but his attitude in four walls will remain the same,what you would like to advice me,after living a decent and clean life so far shal i take khula by punishing myself or what shall i do to expose him and his family,or for only food and shelter is what im destined to.patience is what i have already shown for more than 3 years now,Mistake form myside also happened sometimes,but always it was him and his male chauvinism towards me to degrade my self esteem.Today im in a position to write a mail like this.Please Advice brothers and sisters.

    • Muttaqi says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      Your options are either:

      Stay in this miserable relationship,

      Or get divorced and be ostracized by society and most likely not get married again. I hate to say it like this but I have to get to the point in these comments.

      From what it sounds like, he either doesn’t love you or doesn’t know how to show his love or has some other really bad mental problems.

      Be rational about your situation. From what you’ve said, you’re in a weak position. He has all the power and you have none. Therefore, you have to find out what strengths you do have that you can use to your advantage.

      If there is good in him, then you should be good to him and give him his rights as a husband. Sometimes kindness will melt a cold heart.

      Whatever you do, put your trust in Allah and devote your life to pleasing Him. Don’t make your husband the center of your life; make Allah the center of your life and things will change, Inshallah.

  74. kholchooma brgum says:

    Salam walakum my brother of islam. 1st of all i would lyk 2 thank u of all ur hard work 2 creatin islamic materials. By the way r u onfacbuk? I giv 2 orphanages once a mnt is that ok? I am tryin really hard 2 pray namaz and keep fasts, but the missed 1s come 1st ryt? Y do i feel scared all the tym lyk i amm guna die in a few mnts? Is it due 2 sins. I am tryin to follow muhammad saw pbuh sunnah is tha wrong bcos i am a gyal? I searched on the internet abt 4 pgs of muhammad saw sunnah but ther all diffferent plz cud u tell me muhammad saw pbuh sunnah. Jazak allah khair. Allah may he reward u. Ameen

  75. Natasha says:

    I have heard that praying for a long life doesn’t make sense as that is already determined when a baby is formed in the womb but I always pray for long and healthy life of my loved ones. Is that wrong?

  76. sarawar says:

    if your food is haram,and you have no problem with your relative who is enjoying riba..then no prayer will be accepted
    this not my own word but the message of my pir-o-mursheed maulana azangachi rahamatulla alaihe

  77. ummasahmir says:

    Assalamu Alaikum,
    I need your help in making a decision on my life, if you could please help me with you knowledge about Riba. My husband and I bought a house 5 years ago and it’s interest based. I have read and listened to many hadit, lectures and I know the risk. I’m ready to move out from this house and leave this riba life for good. But my husband keeps on making excusses and tries to convience me that it’s not riba. My question is should I wait and sell the house then leave, or just walk away as soon as possible? He will not support me on my decision it’s just my kids and I, and I need you to make dua for me to make my transition easy, insha Allah
    Thank you

    • Abu Ibrahim says:

      Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      I don’t suggest you leave your husband’s house, even though it may have been purchased in a haraam manner.

      I don’t know the particulars of your home purchase, but if it was in the typical western fashion, where you take out a mortgage for a certain number of years from a bank and if you miss a few payments, they take it back and you lose everything….then yes, that’s riba.

      Continue talking with your husband and try to convince him to find a way to sell the house and move on, or pay it off quicker than what’s on the mortgage agreement.

      And Allah is the source of strength.

  78. a says:

    There’s nothn reltd to duas m ask nw bt like u to shed. Some advice on d follwn matter…m a medcl studnt…wantd to knw wat islm says regrdn medcal termination of pregnancy in cases of congenital anomalies….

  79. YBY says:

    Im a 17 year old girl, and have been asking Allah tallah for this one dua for 4 years now! I have some jaw issue which can only be corrected through an expansion and orthodontist process. The thing is i had braces but the treatment before was not successful. I will be working this summer, so I can help pay along with my parents for a new treatment. Please duaa for me, that the orthodontists find a better treatment insha allah, and Allah makes things easier for me, and removes my stress and anxiety due to all of this! Ameen, and thanks for all this info!

  80. FAJ says:

    ASSALAMU ALYKUM..
    SALAM MOLANA SAHAB..ME EK BAHOT PARESHANI ME HU ME JIS LADKE KO PASAND KARTI THI WO BHI MUJE PASAND KARTA THA HUM DONO EK SATH THE 2 SAL TAK AB WO MUJSE BAT BHI NAHI KARTA HE..ME MUSLIM HU OR WO NON MUSLIM HE..PLZ ALLAH K LIYE DUA KARE WO MERA HO JAYE OR MUJSE BAT BHI KARE..HUM DONO SATH HI THE PAR PATA NHI KAISE DUR HO GAYE..MAHERBANI HOGI APKI DUA KARE MERE LIYE

  81. moo786 says:

    Assalam Alaikum wa rahmathullahi wabarakathahu… Hello

    I have a query.. i cannot simply put into words..
    My BIG #1 problem is BAD BREATH

    I’ve had this situation since i was about 15. Now i am at high school.. ever since i’ve found out about my BB i tried everything i could including: brush my teeth, mouthwash, gargle (whatever u can think of)..
    Two years ago i went to the doctors in my country and every time i went something ALWAYS stopped me from telling them the doc that i had this bb condition. Then in the end i end up crying thinking why did i do this?
    Secondly when i went to back home i tried to tell the doctors but just kept it to myself.. i have no idea why and that was back-home where my whole family came with me (soo embarassing).

    Thirdly.. when i came back to this country i made appointments about my allergies (at least in that hope they would see me via ENT specialist)..
    Then.. i made to see them and it happened ONCE MORE and finally TODAY i went again after four month of waiting i FINALLY said to my ent speciality that i’ve got BB.

    I also told her that i had tonsil stones which i seem to take out with cotton bud..then she says “yes continue doing that” it was soo ridicuclous when she said that.. i was like can i remove my tonsils then.. she replied “that doesn’t solve the problem”..

    As usual I don’t know what else to say but CRY every single DAY about this condition.. (ask Allah subhan ta’la) for help and cure but he doesn’t seem to.. i pray reguraly.. i am waiting (not impatient) .. i prevent myself from harmful things

    But my question is due to this condition why wouldn’t Allah accept my dua if this would benefit myself like i wanna talk to people and have fun rather than be segregated as “stinker” .. ( everyone at my school thinks that i don’t brush my teeth and all tat crap)

    I cannot participate in class it’s HORRIBle..

    P.S: i’ve also told my parents and just as what i thought they responded to me ike “aahh u dont have bb” then like they just stopeed talking afterwards..

    I literally cry every single day no-one wud believe this.. :’(

    it’s actually ruining my entire life…

    • uk says:

      do your gums bleed?because blood also can cause bad breath,if its the cause you lack vitamin C,you should have oranges everyday and when you do wazu and wash your mouth just ask ALLAH to stop this bb inshallah you will be finee

    • sara says:

      You should have your tonsil stone removed. You can get them surgically removed and hopefully that should treat the problem.

  82. Salma says:

    Asalam,
    I have a concern that has been going on for years. I have recently found out that witchcraft and black magic has been done on me and my sister not to get married. We have had many proposals but one or the other the answer always ends up rejecting them. Even though we know that family is good and right but my parents reject them. We heard from someone who breaks magic or something. But we have nothing much happening about marriage.

    • uk says:

      you should read ayatul kursi and Amanar Rasul every night and blow it on your body and in water and drink the water,inshallah you will be okay

  83. uk says:

    thank you a lot from now i will try my best to do good actions so that ALLAH accepts my dua,keep it up

  84. ANUM ZAHID says:

    sir me and my musband were supporting a widow lady and her daughter since last 5 years.Now that lady claims her to be my husbands wife and is blackmailing us by posting editteted vulger pictures of my hasband with her.it’s been three months now, she also had made an id card without our knowledge.since we are living abroad so cant do much ,but one of our friends is helping us to get the id card cancelled.But for the facebook pictures she says she has not posted them, but since he is my husband so those pictures are ours.Even the police is trying to get those phos from her but no vain.we also have registered a complaint to FIA …but it is also a very long process.
    sir., Allah knows my husband is a very nice person helping the poors and the needy most of the time. Pays off zakat very regularly …..but after this incident we both are so disturbed ,that what wrong is done by us that we are punished so badly, and it seems our duas are not answered. please guide me . i am now too afraid of the widows .i know this is very bad but i cant help my self out of this thinking. From your article i got a feeling may be Allah has planned something very good for us , which we cant think of.

  85. mariama says:

    Hello sister & brothers. the is this boy that o was daton for a year and i told him i need distance and after three week a saw him and i stay have all the feelon for him. I wish to marry him but we already been together before. The is a lot of understandin between us two. But i dont know of the future . I am so confuse and would loke to hear someone else view. I want to be halal but again i want hom in my life . Is yjos stay considered haram . Please help . Inshallah and thanks

  86. A.K says:

    I can’t thank you enough for sharing this post.

  87. ambreen nazir says:

    @A.K …i dont find mariama mail so informative for which you are so thankful for sharing…..as a muslim everyone must know that staying together just for joy is haram…..well if i am missing some point do share …

  88. A.K says:

    I am thankful because my duas’ weren’t being answered in the way I wanted and being human it made me impatient despite the fact that I knew all of this already. Just reading this at ‘that moment’ made my faith stronger.How can I not be thankful? :)

  89. Muslimah says:

    Jazakumullahu khayran for this. May Allah bless you with the best in this life and the next, dear brother. I have seen how patiently you have answered every question.
    Please make dua for me.

  90. i’m ina competition and i wanna win soo bad ! i asked allah during this dua after my prayer so i can win …. but it still hasn’t happend ? do you know whats wrong ??? >.<

  91. i gotta go i’m late for prayer

  92. Anonymous says:

    Assalamualaikum
    I had been asking Allah for my wudhu annulling issue for abt a long tym, even wen i went for umrah, i begged him and even wen i was travelling to makkah from UAE (a musafir’s dua is accepted), even at iftar tym, even during laylatul qadr nights, but i still hav the problem. It is a kinda constipation problem. Ppl made fun of me, and i used to have a lot of problem trying to do Tawaaf as my wudhu used to get annulled. Moreover, people crowd around the kaabah and it is very difficult to get through. I know that if a person has a disease, he does’nt need to do wudhu again and again. I went to the doc but he said i didnt hav any gastric problem or any other disease. i hav suffered a lot of humiliation. I know that my content is unrelated to the topic. I am really sorry.
    Plz tell me some duas or ways to get out of this problem.

    • Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      Keep making dua and do not become impatient. Have a good opinion of Allah and utilize any available medical means to solve your problem knowing that ultimately it is Allah that cures and heals us all.

      Make Tahajjud (night prayer) a habit and fast on Mondays and Thursdays if possible. Make dua to Allah during the night prayers to solve your problem. Also make dua after Salaatul Asr on Fridays. Learn the meaning of the words you’re saying as well, and don’t just repeat the Arabic words from memory.

      Don’t give up and don’t give up on Allah.

  93. sara says:

    ive been askin for 9 years. these 9 years have been painful and very hard. so what if i am asking for a guy who i love to marry me. atleast i am asking for marriage at the end of it. i wont say its a bad or sinful thing to ask for its part of whats required (marriage) im just asking it to be with this particular person. if he thinks its not good for me make it be good for me after all he’s almighty and powerful who managed to make the world in 6 days, then making something that i really want be good for me is not hard is it? whats the point of telling us ask and then when we do ask he’s got terms and conditions. why make us to hurt us?

    • Joy says:

      You have lack of Faith….. If you truly believe in Hereafter than even if you didn’t get the guy you love the most, it wouldn’t even matter to you because the life of hereafter is better and greater than this world. The life of this world is just plain amusement and fun. I suggest you make your Faith more pure and pray Allah to give you Guidance, that’s your lacking.

  94. sara says:

    and by the way during these 9 years i have tried my very best to be up to date with the five pillars, ive even prayed the most longest and complicated tiring prayers. its a shame i put all my best effort into it and gained nothing other than pain and ignorance. how do you expect me to be patient 9 years in frustration and pain is very very hard and long.

  95. Jenna S says:

    Assalamulaykum,

    I know that were not allowed to pray for non Muslims but is it possible to make a dua for a non-Muslim friend to be guided onto the correct path, and if I am able to get married to this individual? If so what would I need to say?

    Jazakallah

    • Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      You cannot pray for the forgiveness of non-Muslims after they’ve died. But you can pray for them while they’re alive, including asking Allah to guide them.

      Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) prayed that either Umar Ibn Al-Khattab or Abu Jahl would accept Islam when both of them were enemies of Islam. As it turned out, Allah guided Umar but not Abu Jahl.

  96. Worried says:

    Last year during Ramadan, I made extensive lists and asked every day for every thing that I needed (important things!). I prayed all the Sunnah and Fard and Taraweeh. But none of my Dua’as came true? It’s been over a year, and this Ramadan has almost come to an end. Still none of the Duas (believe me I went above and beyond making Dua last Ramadan… I was more determined than I ever thought I would be!) have even come close to coming true. I got almost nothing that I asked for. What more can I do? I Swear I’ve tried everything.

    • You have to trust in Allah. This is not a business. You don’t give Allah something in order to get something back in return. Worship Him because He deserves to be worshiped. If you need something from Him, ask for it. And if you don’t get it when you want it or in the way you expect it, then you must trust that He knows what is best for you and trust His decree.

  97. Ms N says:

    Salaam brother please do dua for me I am in a lot of problems.

  98. Abdulrasaq abduljelil says:

    I’m 30 pls remember me in prayer i won’t a job so dat i can do nikkah.may Almighty Allah save us frow sinnah.

  99. Peace says:

    Salam alaikum.

    My older sister who has hated me all my life and always treated me with contempt is estranged from me due to an event in my past which happened when i was a teenager. Even prior to the event my sister has only ever had pure hatred for me also.
    I did something bad when i was young but now i am an adult with a family and the rest of my relatives (mum etc) have all forgiven me and moved on but she refuses to talk to me or acknowledge me.
    I have asked many relatives to speak to her on my behalf but she refuses to keep ties with me.
    I even called her myself but she keeps putting the phone down.
    Im thinking that the bad thing I did is in the past and I was a young girl when it happened and it shouldnt come in the way now. But why is she still hating me.
    Maybe its just an excuse for her to carry on the hate and opression she inflicted on me when I was a child. Shes about 6-7 years older than me I think. I dont even know her real age. A lot of bad things have happened to me as a result of her treating me the way she did there is no doubt about that in my mind.
    Now I want to forget everything and make up with her but she will not listen at all.
    Will I still get the sin of not keeping family ties?
    JazakAllah Khair. Please can you reply.

  100. Salina says:

    As salaamu ‘alaikum,

    I have a question regarding something I am making constant dua for. My young brother could possibly be diagnosed with autism (Astaghfirullah) and I keep asking Allah (swt) to start making him develop better ie. start talking, make more eye contact etc. I was wondering whether it is permissible to make dua for something like this? Am I allowed to pray that Allah (swt) improves his development and gives him a healthy and normal development? I have noone else to turn to but Allah and He is the All-Powerful. I just want some assurance that I’m not praying for something wrong. Jazakallah in advance for your response.

    • Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      Yes, you can make dua for this but you must also be patient. Sometimes there’s good in what may seem apparently bad to us. And Allah may not turn your brother around right away. Or perhaps this struggle will be a means for you and your family to enter paradise.

      My point is, definitely make dua for your brother. But at the same time, be patient with the decree of Allah and put your trust in Him. Ultimately, He will give you what’s best.

  101. Noname Fourtyseven says:

    Brother I need a quick reply so please reply to me via email. Would a dua be accepted if I want to see someone? The reason for seeing this person is because that person has took something from me, therefore I want to get it back from them. Would Allah accept a dua for this? Please reply me on nonameother@outlook.com

    Jazakallah brother

  102. NEED AN URGENT RESPONSE says:

    Brother would Allah accept a dua if i want to see someone? The situation is, a person has took a life from a sibling of mine and I will wait patiently till the person is released from prison. I calculated that I will turn at the age of 31 years which would mean I will be fit enough and once the person is out i want to end their life, but will Allah accept my dua of giving me a higher chance to capture this person? Please reply via email on nonameother@outlook.com

    Jazakallah brother

    • This is not a good thing to make dua for. Allah is the best at taking revenge. Besides, by the time you decide to act upon your plan, this person may have repented and earned Allah’s Love and Mercy. This will put you in the wrong for hurting someone that Allah loves.

      This person is already doing time in prison. If you don’t feel this is justice enough, then make dua to Allah to bring justice for you. But to take it into your own hands is very dangerous.

  103. not intrested to disclose says:

    Assallammu allikum.
    I been working in bpo bank mortgage process bpo in India for almost 7years now i realise that im not soppose to work those kind of job but if i choose other domain i will be getting least pay from that pay i can not take care of my family. My sister not living with her husband so i need to take care of my 2 nephew education and mom and more over i yet to marry so i have no other option other than working in mortgage but i always belive god will understand my suituvation. Pls give me a suggestion

    • Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      Allah knows your intention better than you or I do.

      Do what you think is best now and make Taubah (repentance) to Allah. If you truly have no other choice, then Allah knows the truth. However, you should make the intention to leave this job as soon as possible and make dua to Allah to make it easy for you to leave.

      But if you truly trust in Allah, then you will find something else now, even if it doesn’t pay as well, and leave this situation.

      Ultimately, Allah knows best.

  104. Sulaymaan says:

    I made dua that a girl called sameen could speak to me, so far, nothing

  105. Shameel says:

    Assalamu alaikum,
    i know a girl from different country. At first we chat a lot and we became close to one another. My intention only is to marry her. i knew it is haram but i fell for my desires. Astaghfirullah. for 2 months we chat. Now we discussed about the anger of Allah that we may incur and we both have decided to stop contacting each other. And we must do a lot of istigfar from Allah. Hope Allah forgive us for our Sins.

    But now i want to marry her as per shariah. I first ask my parents if they agree for me to marry her. Then i approach her Wali/Father and ask her hand in Marriage.

    My Parents may not agree as she is from different Country. So i Dua to Allah that my parents heart become soft towards her so they agree for this marriage in shaa Allah.

    Now i fear as you have mentioned that if ties of kinship are cuttoff because of this marriage proposal. Will Allah accept my dua.

    I dont want to break away from my family at any cost or because of the girl. i just want them to marry me to her. Thats all.

    She is a good muslimah. good in deen. her deen appeals me. this is why we settled to this decision of haram contact effecting our imaan.

    Will my dua be accepted under this scenario. Or am i asking something HARAM.

    • Wa Alaikum Salaam,

      You don’t need your parents permission to get married as a man. You should take their advice, but you’re not confined by their approval. If you love this girl and she is truly a good Muslim, then go on and marry her.

  106. Sharriffa says:

    Why does the Christian God answer their prayers? My Christian friends say this all the time, they pray for husbands, car everything..

    • Allah answers everyone’s prayer, not just Muslims. Just like Muslims can enjoy the sunshine and rain and love and beautiful children, Allah has also made it so those who do not worship Him properly also enjoy these things. And Allah also answers their prayers. It’s like a Mercy from Him and a test at the same time.

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